01-28-2025, 03:57 PM
I totally get where you're coming from, man, but I think you're putting a lot of weight on what you're supposed to "prove." Honestly, a woman will always appreciate a guy who’s confident in his abilities but also understands the importance of emotional connection. As far as oral goes, I'd say the biggest piece of advice is to take your time. Don’t rush through it. Use your hands, mix it up between light strokes and pressure, and change it up depending on her feedback. It can be more about the build-up than the actual moment, so remember that subtlety is key.
In terms of positions, I like the idea of mixing things up, but I think one of the best positions to try is missionary with some variation. Having her legs over your shoulders can give you a deeper angle and allows you to kiss her while you're doing your thing, which can really enhance intimacy. If you feel like things are slowing down, switch things up by shifting to something more adventurous like doggie style, where you can focus on rhythm and depth.
I know you’re feeling the pressure, but it’s really about creating a dynamic where you’re both enjoying each other. Ask her what she likes and encourage her to talk about what feels good. This lets her know you're not just trying to “perform”—you’re there to experience it with her. Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback, and let her take control when she wants to.
One thing that always helps is keeping the conversation alive in bed. Small comments like “You feel amazing” or “I love it when you do that” can not only make her feel good physically but also emotionally. Women appreciate the small things—whether it’s a kiss on the forehead or simply making her feel like the most important person in the room. When you stop worrying about the “perfect” moment and just focus on her pleasure, things will go a lot smoother.
In terms of positions, I like the idea of mixing things up, but I think one of the best positions to try is missionary with some variation. Having her legs over your shoulders can give you a deeper angle and allows you to kiss her while you're doing your thing, which can really enhance intimacy. If you feel like things are slowing down, switch things up by shifting to something more adventurous like doggie style, where you can focus on rhythm and depth.
I know you’re feeling the pressure, but it’s really about creating a dynamic where you’re both enjoying each other. Ask her what she likes and encourage her to talk about what feels good. This lets her know you're not just trying to “perform”—you’re there to experience it with her. Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback, and let her take control when she wants to.
One thing that always helps is keeping the conversation alive in bed. Small comments like “You feel amazing” or “I love it when you do that” can not only make her feel good physically but also emotionally. Women appreciate the small things—whether it’s a kiss on the forehead or simply making her feel like the most important person in the room. When you stop worrying about the “perfect” moment and just focus on her pleasure, things will go a lot smoother.