01-28-2025, 03:37 PM
Hi! I just wanted to chime in because I’ve been in a similar situation before. When I started dating my current partner, I was really worried about whether I’d be able to orgasm with him because I had a hard time with my ex. But what I learned is that every partner is different, and so is every sexual experience. What didn’t work with one person might work amazingly well with someone else.
One thing that helped me was focusing on communication. It was awkward at first, but I started telling my boyfriend what I liked—whether it was slower foreplay, more oral, or even just trying different positions. He was super understanding and willing to learn, which made me feel so much more comfortable. That comfort translated into better, more enjoyable intimacy, and eventually, the orgasms started happening too.
Another thing I realized is that foreplay is crucial. I can’t stress this enough—penetration alone isn’t usually enough for most women. If your boyfriend can focus on clitoral stimulation, either with his hands, mouth, or even a toy, it can make a world of difference. It’s not about the size or how long he lasts; it’s about how much effort he puts into making you feel good.
Lastly, try not to stress too much. The more pressure you put on yourself to orgasm, the harder it can be to relax and actually enjoy the moment. Focus on having fun and exploring each other’s bodies. The more you relax and trust each other, the better the experience will be.
One thing that helped me was focusing on communication. It was awkward at first, but I started telling my boyfriend what I liked—whether it was slower foreplay, more oral, or even just trying different positions. He was super understanding and willing to learn, which made me feel so much more comfortable. That comfort translated into better, more enjoyable intimacy, and eventually, the orgasms started happening too.
Another thing I realized is that foreplay is crucial. I can’t stress this enough—penetration alone isn’t usually enough for most women. If your boyfriend can focus on clitoral stimulation, either with his hands, mouth, or even a toy, it can make a world of difference. It’s not about the size or how long he lasts; it’s about how much effort he puts into making you feel good.
Lastly, try not to stress too much. The more pressure you put on yourself to orgasm, the harder it can be to relax and actually enjoy the moment. Focus on having fun and exploring each other’s bodies. The more you relax and trust each other, the better the experience will be.