01-28-2025, 03:37 PM
Hi there! I totally get where you’re coming from, and honestly, you’re not alone in feeling this way. I think a lot of us have been in situations where we wondered if we could orgasm with a new partner, especially if things didn’t work out perfectly in the past. But I can tell you from personal experience that connection and communication can really change everything.
With my current partner, I was initially worried because, physically, he wasn’t much different from my ex. But what really made a difference was how much attention he gave to my needs. We spent a lot of time talking about what felt good for me—without any judgment—and he was willing to take his time to experiment with different things. Trust me, the more you communicate, the better it gets.
One thing to keep in mind is that orgasms are not always about penetration. They’re about the overall experience—foreplay, emotional intimacy, and even the little things like kissing and touching in the right way. Don’t shy away from guiding your boyfriend during those moments. Most guys appreciate it when you tell them exactly what feels good because they want to please you.
Finally, try not to overthink it too much. Sometimes, the stress of wondering if you’ll orgasm can make it harder to relax and actually enjoy the moment. Instead of focusing on the outcome, focus on the journey—build that connection, explore each other, and let things happen naturally. You’ll be surprised at how much better things can feel when you take that pressure off yourself.
With my current partner, I was initially worried because, physically, he wasn’t much different from my ex. But what really made a difference was how much attention he gave to my needs. We spent a lot of time talking about what felt good for me—without any judgment—and he was willing to take his time to experiment with different things. Trust me, the more you communicate, the better it gets.
One thing to keep in mind is that orgasms are not always about penetration. They’re about the overall experience—foreplay, emotional intimacy, and even the little things like kissing and touching in the right way. Don’t shy away from guiding your boyfriend during those moments. Most guys appreciate it when you tell them exactly what feels good because they want to please you.
Finally, try not to overthink it too much. Sometimes, the stress of wondering if you’ll orgasm can make it harder to relax and actually enjoy the moment. Instead of focusing on the outcome, focus on the journey—build that connection, explore each other, and let things happen naturally. You’ll be surprised at how much better things can feel when you take that pressure off yourself.