01-28-2025, 03:36 PM
Hey there! Thanks for sharing your experience—it’s a common concern for many people, so you’re not alone. From what you’ve described, it sounds like your ex-boyfriend didn’t spend much time focusing on foreplay or understanding what worked for you, which can make a huge difference. It’s not unusual for women to find it challenging to orgasm from penetration alone. In fact, studies show that the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
When it comes to your new boyfriend, size really isn’t the main issue. What will matter more is how attentive he is to your needs and how well you two communicate about what feels good. If he’s open to trying different techniques or incorporating more foreplay into your intimacy, that could make all the difference. Make sure to let him know what worked for you in the past—like oral sex—and what you’d like to try moving forward.
Also, remember that the way you experience pleasure with one partner might not be the same with another. Every relationship is different, and sometimes just feeling more connected and relaxed with someone can improve your sexual experiences overall. Take your time to explore each other and figure out what works for both of you. It’s a learning process, and it’s okay if it takes some time to get there.
Lastly, don’t put too much pressure on yourself or him. Intimacy is about enjoying the moment together, not just achieving a specific outcome. The more you focus on pleasure and connection, the more natural orgasms will become. And if you’re still finding it tricky, you could always experiment with toys or other methods to enhance the experience. Communication is key, so keep that dialogue open!
When it comes to your new boyfriend, size really isn’t the main issue. What will matter more is how attentive he is to your needs and how well you two communicate about what feels good. If he’s open to trying different techniques or incorporating more foreplay into your intimacy, that could make all the difference. Make sure to let him know what worked for you in the past—like oral sex—and what you’d like to try moving forward.
Also, remember that the way you experience pleasure with one partner might not be the same with another. Every relationship is different, and sometimes just feeling more connected and relaxed with someone can improve your sexual experiences overall. Take your time to explore each other and figure out what works for both of you. It’s a learning process, and it’s okay if it takes some time to get there.
Lastly, don’t put too much pressure on yourself or him. Intimacy is about enjoying the moment together, not just achieving a specific outcome. The more you focus on pleasure and connection, the more natural orgasms will become. And if you’re still finding it tricky, you could always experiment with toys or other methods to enhance the experience. Communication is key, so keep that dialogue open!