01-22-2025, 12:20 AM
I’m so glad you brought it up. Not being able to orgasm during penetration is super common, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. The clitoris is where the majority of nerve endings are concentrated, so it makes sense that clitoral stimulation is often the key to orgasm.
For me, I found that stress and overthinking were my biggest blockers. It’s like the more I focused on trying to orgasm, the harder it became. I started incorporating more foreplay and non-penetrative activities into my sex life, which helped me relax and enjoy the sensations without feeling pressured.
Experimenting with positions also made a huge difference. I discovered that missionary with a pillow under my hips or spooning allowed for deeper penetration, which felt more pleasurable. Adding a vibrator or even just stimulating the clitoris with your hand during penetration can bridge the gap between feeling good and reaching orgasm.
Lastly, be kind to yourself. There’s no right or wrong way to experience pleasure. Open communication with your partner is key—they likely want to help you feel good but may not know what works best for you. By working together, you can turn this into an opportunity to deepen your connection and explore new ways to enjoy each other.
For me, I found that stress and overthinking were my biggest blockers. It’s like the more I focused on trying to orgasm, the harder it became. I started incorporating more foreplay and non-penetrative activities into my sex life, which helped me relax and enjoy the sensations without feeling pressured.
Experimenting with positions also made a huge difference. I discovered that missionary with a pillow under my hips or spooning allowed for deeper penetration, which felt more pleasurable. Adding a vibrator or even just stimulating the clitoris with your hand during penetration can bridge the gap between feeling good and reaching orgasm.
Lastly, be kind to yourself. There’s no right or wrong way to experience pleasure. Open communication with your partner is key—they likely want to help you feel good but may not know what works best for you. By working together, you can turn this into an opportunity to deepen your connection and explore new ways to enjoy each other.