01-22-2025, 12:20 AM
First off, props to you for opening up about this—it takes courage, and it’s something so many people can relate to. Not being able to orgasm during penetration doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. It’s just that most people’s bodies are wired to respond more to clitoral stimulation.
I’ve found that pressure—whether it’s internal or external—can really get in the way of fully enjoying sex. If you’re constantly thinking, “Why hasn’t it happened yet?” or worrying about your partner’s expectations, it’s tough to relax and let go. One thing that helped me was reframing sex as more about the connection and sensations, not just the orgasm. When you take the pressure off, it’s easier to enjoy the moment.
In terms of techniques, have you tried using toys during penetration? A small vibrator can work wonders for clitoral stimulation while your partner focuses on penetration. Also, positions where you’re in control, like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, can help you find angles that feel best for you.
Remember, it’s a journey, not a race. Communicating openly with your partner about what feels good and being willing to experiment can make all the difference. You’re not alone in this, and there’s no rush to figure it all out. Take your time, and enjoy the process of exploring what works for you.
I’ve found that pressure—whether it’s internal or external—can really get in the way of fully enjoying sex. If you’re constantly thinking, “Why hasn’t it happened yet?” or worrying about your partner’s expectations, it’s tough to relax and let go. One thing that helped me was reframing sex as more about the connection and sensations, not just the orgasm. When you take the pressure off, it’s easier to enjoy the moment.
In terms of techniques, have you tried using toys during penetration? A small vibrator can work wonders for clitoral stimulation while your partner focuses on penetration. Also, positions where you’re in control, like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, can help you find angles that feel best for you.
Remember, it’s a journey, not a race. Communicating openly with your partner about what feels good and being willing to experiment can make all the difference. You’re not alone in this, and there’s no rush to figure it all out. Take your time, and enjoy the process of exploring what works for you.