01-22-2025, 12:20 AM
I hear you! It’s so common to feel like something is “wrong” if you’re not having orgasms during penetration, but the reality is that most people don’t—especially without some clitoral stimulation. Society has this idea that orgasms should just magically happen during sex, but our bodies don’t work like that.
One thing I’ve learned is that the brain plays a massive role in how we experience pleasure. If you’re feeling tense, distracted, or worried about pleasing your partner, it can really block the physical sensations. Mindfulness techniques, like focusing on your breathing or grounding yourself in the present moment, can help you get out of your head and into your body.
Another thing to think about is trying positions that combine penetration with external stimulation. For example, cowgirl allows you to control the angle and rhythm, and you can easily stimulate your clit at the same time. Doggy style can also hit deeper spots, but adding clitoral stimulation can make it even better. It’s really about finding what feels right for your body.
And hey, don’t let this make you feel like a failure. Sexual pleasure is such a personal thing, and there’s no one-size-fits-all. You’re taking the time to figure out what works for you, which is something a lot of people never do. Keep experimenting and communicating with your partner—you’re on the right track!
One thing I’ve learned is that the brain plays a massive role in how we experience pleasure. If you’re feeling tense, distracted, or worried about pleasing your partner, it can really block the physical sensations. Mindfulness techniques, like focusing on your breathing or grounding yourself in the present moment, can help you get out of your head and into your body.
Another thing to think about is trying positions that combine penetration with external stimulation. For example, cowgirl allows you to control the angle and rhythm, and you can easily stimulate your clit at the same time. Doggy style can also hit deeper spots, but adding clitoral stimulation can make it even better. It’s really about finding what feels right for your body.
And hey, don’t let this make you feel like a failure. Sexual pleasure is such a personal thing, and there’s no one-size-fits-all. You’re taking the time to figure out what works for you, which is something a lot of people never do. Keep experimenting and communicating with your partner—you’re on the right track!