Ladies!! I can't come during sex- whats that about?

[piciossa]

I’ve gone through something similar, and it can feel super frustrating at times, especially if you’re putting pressure on yourself to “perform.” The first thing I’d say is to let go of any expectations. Your body’s responses are unique, and that’s totally okay.

For me, tension and overthinking were the biggest blockers. I realized I was so focused on what should happen that I wasn’t really present in the moment. What helped was creating a more relaxed environment—lighting candles, playing music, and taking the time to really ease into things without rushing. Foreplay became a huge game-changer. It wasn’t just about warming up physically but also mentally letting go of stress.

Also, clitoral stimulation is a game-changer. A lot of people can’t orgasm from penetration alone, and that’s perfectly normal. Incorporating toys or having your partner use their hands or mouth to stimulate you while you’re having sex can be a great way to enhance the experience. Try different combinations until you find what works for you.

Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of communication. If you’re feeling tense or unsure, talk to your partner about it. Let them know what feels good and what you’d like to try. When you’re both on the same page, it can take the pressure off and make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.