01-22-2025, 12:19 AM
thanks for sharing this! Honestly, you're not alone in feeling this way—this topic doesn’t get discussed enough, but it’s more common than you might think. A lot of people struggle with reaching orgasm during penetration. For many, clitoral stimulation is the key because that's where most of the nerve endings are. Penetrative sex can feel amazing, but it doesn’t always hit the right spots for everyone.
From my experience, being tense or too much “in your head” during sex can really hold you back. It’s like your body is trying to enjoy, but your brain is analyzing every little thing—“Am I doing this right?” or “Shouldn’t I be feeling something more by now?” That overthinking can totally kill the vibe. What’s helped me is practicing mindfulness—really focusing on the sensations in my body rather than overthinking the “end goal.”
Another thing to consider is experimenting with positions or even tools. For instance, positions that allow for deeper penetration, like missionary with a pillow under your hips or spooning, can feel more intense. Adding a vibrator into the mix or having your partner stimulate your clit during sex could make all the difference. It’s all about finding what works for you and being open to exploring together.
Lastly, I want to say this—don’t beat yourself up. You’re not broken, and it doesn’t mean you’re bad at sex. Communication is key, and it sounds like you have a supportive partner, which is a huge plus. Be open about what feels good for you, and don’t feel ashamed to guide them. The journey to figuring out what works for your body is worth it.
From my experience, being tense or too much “in your head” during sex can really hold you back. It’s like your body is trying to enjoy, but your brain is analyzing every little thing—“Am I doing this right?” or “Shouldn’t I be feeling something more by now?” That overthinking can totally kill the vibe. What’s helped me is practicing mindfulness—really focusing on the sensations in my body rather than overthinking the “end goal.”
Another thing to consider is experimenting with positions or even tools. For instance, positions that allow for deeper penetration, like missionary with a pillow under your hips or spooning, can feel more intense. Adding a vibrator into the mix or having your partner stimulate your clit during sex could make all the difference. It’s all about finding what works for you and being open to exploring together.
Lastly, I want to say this—don’t beat yourself up. You’re not broken, and it doesn’t mean you’re bad at sex. Communication is key, and it sounds like you have a supportive partner, which is a huge plus. Be open about what feels good for you, and don’t feel ashamed to guide them. The journey to figuring out what works for your body is worth it.