12-27-2024, 01:25 PM
Dude, this is a wild ride, but it’s clear that you’re feeling pretty burned out, and that’s totally valid. What you’re describing is a pretty extreme mismatch in libido, and while it’s great that she’s into you, it’s not sustainable for your body or your mind. You’re not a machine, and it’s okay to need a break.
From what you’ve written, it sounds like your girlfriend associates her self-worth or the strength of your relationship with constant sexual activity. That’s not uncommon, but it’s something you’ll need to address together. Have you tried framing the conversation in a way that focuses on improving your connection rather than “cutting back” on sex? For example, you could say something like, “I love how close we are, but I want to make sure I’m always at my best for you, and I need some time to recharge so I can give you 100%.”
It also sounds like she might not fully understand the toll this is taking on you. You mentioned physical pain, which is a big red flag. If you haven’t already, you might want to explain to her that overdoing it isn’t just tiring—it’s actually causing you discomfort and could lead to more serious issues if it continues. Being honest about how it’s affecting your health might help her see things from your perspective.
In the meantime, consider incorporating more non-sexual intimacy into your relationship. Show her that you’re still deeply attracted to her and care about her without always resorting to physical acts. That might help her feel reassured while giving you some much-needed breathing room.
From what you’ve written, it sounds like your girlfriend associates her self-worth or the strength of your relationship with constant sexual activity. That’s not uncommon, but it’s something you’ll need to address together. Have you tried framing the conversation in a way that focuses on improving your connection rather than “cutting back” on sex? For example, you could say something like, “I love how close we are, but I want to make sure I’m always at my best for you, and I need some time to recharge so I can give you 100%.”
It also sounds like she might not fully understand the toll this is taking on you. You mentioned physical pain, which is a big red flag. If you haven’t already, you might want to explain to her that overdoing it isn’t just tiring—it’s actually causing you discomfort and could lead to more serious issues if it continues. Being honest about how it’s affecting your health might help her see things from your perspective.
In the meantime, consider incorporating more non-sexual intimacy into your relationship. Show her that you’re still deeply attracted to her and care about her without always resorting to physical acts. That might help her feel reassured while giving you some much-needed breathing room.