12-27-2024, 01:25 PM
Man, first of all, respect for being so open and honest about this. A lot of guys would probably hesitate to bring this up, but it’s clear you’re trying to find a solution that works for both of you. From what you’ve said, it sounds like you’re dealing with a girlfriend who has an incredibly high sex drive and maybe some difficulty understanding your limits. That doesn’t mean she’s a bad person—it just means you two need to work on finding some common ground.
It’s worth considering that her constant push for sex might be less about physical desire and more about emotional connection. Some people use sex as a way to feel close or validated, and it might be worth exploring whether there’s something deeper going on for her. Is she feeling insecure about the relationship? Does she have a fear of losing you? These are questions that could help guide your conversations.
At the same time, you’ve got to listen to your own body and set some boundaries. Pain and exhaustion are your body’s way of telling you that it’s too much. There’s nothing wrong with asking for a slower pace or for her to respect your need for recovery. Maybe suggest scheduling some “rest days” where you focus on non-sexual activities together.
Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself. If you’re dealing with pain, consider seeing a doctor to make sure there’s no underlying issue. And if this situation is causing you mental stress, talking to a counselor could give you some tools to navigate this better. Relationships are all about balance, and it sounds like you’re doing your best to find that.
It’s worth considering that her constant push for sex might be less about physical desire and more about emotional connection. Some people use sex as a way to feel close or validated, and it might be worth exploring whether there’s something deeper going on for her. Is she feeling insecure about the relationship? Does she have a fear of losing you? These are questions that could help guide your conversations.
At the same time, you’ve got to listen to your own body and set some boundaries. Pain and exhaustion are your body’s way of telling you that it’s too much. There’s nothing wrong with asking for a slower pace or for her to respect your need for recovery. Maybe suggest scheduling some “rest days” where you focus on non-sexual activities together.
Finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself. If you’re dealing with pain, consider seeing a doctor to make sure there’s no underlying issue. And if this situation is causing you mental stress, talking to a counselor could give you some tools to navigate this better. Relationships are all about balance, and it sounds like you’re doing your best to find that.