12-01-2024, 08:02 AM
Man, this hits close to home! My current partner is exactly the same way—she doesn’t orgasm from penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean the sex isn’t enjoyable for her. It’s something I had to unlearn because society often portrays penetration as the “main event.” The reality is, for most women, clitoral stimulation is the key to orgasm. Once I embraced that, our sex life improved dramatically.
One thing that helped us was adding variety. For example, I’ll use my hand or a small toy during penetration to stimulate her clit. Sometimes, we focus entirely on her pleasure before we even get to intercourse. It takes the pressure off both of us and ensures she’s satisfied. Positions like cowgirl or spooning can also help with clitoral contact, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
Regarding her preference for shorter thrusting sessions, I think it’s all about adjusting to her rhythm. Some women don’t enjoy long, repetitive thrusting and prefer a mix of sensations instead. I used to think I needed to “last long” to impress her, but now I realize that listening to her needs and switching things up makes the experience far better for both of us.
My advice? Treat this as a chance to connect on a deeper level. Ask her about her fantasies or what really turns her on. You might discover things about each other that make sex even more exciting. And remember, this isn’t a problem—it’s an opportunity to grow together as a couple.
One thing that helped us was adding variety. For example, I’ll use my hand or a small toy during penetration to stimulate her clit. Sometimes, we focus entirely on her pleasure before we even get to intercourse. It takes the pressure off both of us and ensures she’s satisfied. Positions like cowgirl or spooning can also help with clitoral contact, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
Regarding her preference for shorter thrusting sessions, I think it’s all about adjusting to her rhythm. Some women don’t enjoy long, repetitive thrusting and prefer a mix of sensations instead. I used to think I needed to “last long” to impress her, but now I realize that listening to her needs and switching things up makes the experience far better for both of us.
My advice? Treat this as a chance to connect on a deeper level. Ask her about her fantasies or what really turns her on. You might discover things about each other that make sex even more exciting. And remember, this isn’t a problem—it’s an opportunity to grow together as a couple.