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My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex - ban908463 - 11-30-2024
When I have sex with my partner, she never orgasms; she only orgasms when I stimulate her clit or use a vibrator.
She often says I take too long thrusting her; she would like the thrusting to be a maximum of 5 minutes.
What are your opinions on this?
It's important to recognize that every individual and every couple’s sexual needs and preferences are different. What works for one person may not work for another, and that’s perfectly normal. If your partner is not reaching orgasm from penetration alone, it might be because clitoral stimulation is needed for her to reach climax. Many women require direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, as the clitoris is a highly sensitive area that plays a crucial role in female pleasure. The use of a vibrator or manual clitoral stimulation can often be an effective way to ensure she reaches orgasm.
Regarding the issue of thrusting, it’s essential to listen to her preferences and adjust accordingly. If she finds that long periods of thrusting are uncomfortable or unsatisfying, it may be helpful to shorten the duration of thrusting or incorporate other types of stimulation. Some women prefer a quicker, more focused sexual experience, while others enjoy longer sessions of foreplay and penetration. Open communication is key to finding what works best for both of you and ensuring that you both enjoy the experience.
It might also be worth exploring different positions or techniques during penetration that might provide more stimulation to the clitoris or enhance the sensations for her. Experimenting with different forms of sexual activity, such as oral sex or using hands to stimulate her clit during penetration, can also be effective in helping her reach orgasm.
Ultimately, the most important thing is mutual satisfaction and understanding. If your partner expresses a desire for certain changes, it’s essential to be receptive and willing to adapt. Talking openly about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what each of you enjoys can help create a more fulfilling sexual relationship where both of you feel respected and satisfied.
RE: My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex - antonio123 - 12-01-2024
I can totally relate to what you’re saying. My ex-girlfriend was the same way—penetration alone just didn’t do it for her. I learned over time that for many women, clitoral stimulation is the primary way they achieve orgasm. It’s not a reflection on you or your performance; it’s just how their bodies work. Honestly, once I accepted that and started incorporating clitoral stimulation during sex, things got so much better for both of us.
You mentioned that she prefers shorter periods of thrusting. I’ve been there, too. It took me a while to understand that my idea of “what makes great sex” wasn’t necessarily her idea. What really helped was trying out different positions that allowed me to stimulate her clit during penetration, like the missionary position but with my hand free or even using a small vibrator. That way, we found a rhythm that worked for both of us.
Another thing I learned was not to take it personally when she asked for adjustments. It’s easy to feel like you’re not good enough, but really, it’s about compatibility and teamwork. If you’re open to experimenting and listening, you’ll discover what works best together. Also, don’t underestimate the importance of foreplay—sometimes building up the anticipation makes the whole experience more enjoyable for both partners.
Finally, communication is everything. If you haven’t already, sit down and have an honest conversation about what you both want in bed. It might feel awkward at first, but it’s worth it. You’d be surprised how much you can learn about your partner’s desires when you open up and talk about it.
RE: My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex - hanar123 - 12-01-2024
This is such a common issue, man, and you’re definitely not alone. A lot of guys think that if their partner doesn’t orgasm during penetration, it means they’re doing something wrong, but that’s not the case. Studies show that the majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach climax. It’s just how their anatomy is designed. The good news? That opens up so many ways to spice things up in the bedroom.
When my partner and I faced this, we turned it into an opportunity to explore. I started incorporating vibrators and my hands more often, even during penetration. It felt like we were a team trying to figure out what worked best for her. It also brought us closer because we were discovering new ways to enjoy intimacy together. Vibrators, in particular, were a game-changer.
About the thrusting issue—trust me, less can be more. Instead of focusing on how long you can last, think about the quality of the experience. Mix things up with slower, deeper strokes or alternate between thrusting and clitoral stimulation. Sometimes, just holding her close while stimulating her in other ways can be far more intimate and satisfying than going at it for a long time.
If you’re feeling stuck, don’t hesitate to ask her directly what she wants. Women often appreciate it when you show that you care about their pleasure and are willing to adjust. Once you make her feel truly heard, you’ll notice a big difference in her enthusiasm and enjoyment during sex.
RE: My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex - amravat123 - 12-01-2024
Dude, I’ve been through this exact scenario, and let me tell you, understanding what works for your partner is a game-changer. A lot of women just don’t orgasm from penetration alone—it’s not that they don’t enjoy it, but the clit is the MVP of female pleasure. If she’s saying she needs more clitoral stimulation, trust her and work with that. It’s not about your “performance”; it’s about teamwork in the bedroom.
I struggled with the whole “lasting long” mindset, too. My ex actually told me that she found long sessions of thrusting to be exhausting and even uncomfortable at times. When I started focusing on mixing penetration with other types of stimulation—like using my hand or a small vibe—it completely changed her experience. She started enjoying sex way more, and honestly, it was a huge confidence boost for me, too.
You might also want to try out positions where you can stimulate her clit at the same time. For example, spooning allows you to reach around and use your hand, or even missionary with a vibrator involved can work wonders. Don’t be afraid to pause thrusting for a bit and switch to other techniques. It’s not about how long you go; it’s about how connected you feel.
Lastly, make sure to keep the lines of communication open. When I started asking my partner what she wanted more of or less of, it deepened our intimacy. Women appreciate when you make an effort to understand their needs, and trust me, that effort pays off big time in the bedroom.
RE: My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex - deigo123 - 12-01-2024
Hey, man, I’ve been there. My partner also doesn’t orgasm from penetration, and at first, I thought I was doing something wrong. But then I realized that every woman is different, and for most, the clit is where the magic happens. It’s not about your skills; it’s just biology. Once I stopped stressing about it, our sex life got way better.
If your partner prefers shorter thrusting sessions, listen to her. My girlfriend once told me that the long thrusting sessions I thought were impressive were actually kind of a turn-off for her. She wanted more variety and less focus on “lasting long.” So, we started trying new things—like using toys or focusing on foreplay—and it made a huge difference.
Another thing we tried was syncing our movements to make the experience more intimate. For example, I’d slow down and let her take the lead in certain positions. It gave her more control over the rhythm and pressure, which she loved. Incorporating clitoral stimulation during penetration also became a regular part of our routine.
My biggest takeaway? Don’t overthink it. Talk to her, try new things, and remember that sex isn’t just about the destination—it’s about enjoying the journey together. Once you shift your mindset to prioritize her pleasure, you’ll find that the connection between you deepens, and the experience becomes more fulfilling for both of you.
RE: My Partner Never Orgasms During Sex - piciossa - 12-01-2024
Man, this hits close to home! My current partner is exactly the same way—she doesn’t orgasm from penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean the sex isn’t enjoyable for her. It’s something I had to unlearn because society often portrays penetration as the “main event.” The reality is, for most women, clitoral stimulation is the key to orgasm. Once I embraced that, our sex life improved dramatically.
One thing that helped us was adding variety. For example, I’ll use my hand or a small toy during penetration to stimulate her clit. Sometimes, we focus entirely on her pleasure before we even get to intercourse. It takes the pressure off both of us and ensures she’s satisfied. Positions like cowgirl or spooning can also help with clitoral contact, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
Regarding her preference for shorter thrusting sessions, I think it’s all about adjusting to her rhythm. Some women don’t enjoy long, repetitive thrusting and prefer a mix of sensations instead. I used to think I needed to “last long” to impress her, but now I realize that listening to her needs and switching things up makes the experience far better for both of us.
My advice? Treat this as a chance to connect on a deeper level. Ask her about her fantasies or what really turns her on. You might discover things about each other that make sex even more exciting. And remember, this isn’t a problem—it’s an opportunity to grow together as a couple.