12-01-2024, 08:01 AM
Dude, I’ve been through this exact scenario, and let me tell you, understanding what works for your partner is a game-changer. A lot of women just don’t orgasm from penetration alone—it’s not that they don’t enjoy it, but the clit is the MVP of female pleasure. If she’s saying she needs more clitoral stimulation, trust her and work with that. It’s not about your “performance”; it’s about teamwork in the bedroom.
I struggled with the whole “lasting long” mindset, too. My ex actually told me that she found long sessions of thrusting to be exhausting and even uncomfortable at times. When I started focusing on mixing penetration with other types of stimulation—like using my hand or a small vibe—it completely changed her experience. She started enjoying sex way more, and honestly, it was a huge confidence boost for me, too.
You might also want to try out positions where you can stimulate her clit at the same time. For example, spooning allows you to reach around and use your hand, or even missionary with a vibrator involved can work wonders. Don’t be afraid to pause thrusting for a bit and switch to other techniques. It’s not about how long you go; it’s about how connected you feel.
Lastly, make sure to keep the lines of communication open. When I started asking my partner what she wanted more of or less of, it deepened our intimacy. Women appreciate when you make an effort to understand their needs, and trust me, that effort pays off big time in the bedroom.
I struggled with the whole “lasting long” mindset, too. My ex actually told me that she found long sessions of thrusting to be exhausting and even uncomfortable at times. When I started focusing on mixing penetration with other types of stimulation—like using my hand or a small vibe—it completely changed her experience. She started enjoying sex way more, and honestly, it was a huge confidence boost for me, too.
You might also want to try out positions where you can stimulate her clit at the same time. For example, spooning allows you to reach around and use your hand, or even missionary with a vibrator involved can work wonders. Don’t be afraid to pause thrusting for a bit and switch to other techniques. It’s not about how long you go; it’s about how connected you feel.
Lastly, make sure to keep the lines of communication open. When I started asking my partner what she wanted more of or less of, it deepened our intimacy. Women appreciate when you make an effort to understand their needs, and trust me, that effort pays off big time in the bedroom.