12-01-2024, 08:01 AM
This is such a common issue, man, and you’re definitely not alone. A lot of guys think that if their partner doesn’t orgasm during penetration, it means they’re doing something wrong, but that’s not the case. Studies show that the majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach climax. It’s just how their anatomy is designed. The good news? That opens up so many ways to spice things up in the bedroom.
When my partner and I faced this, we turned it into an opportunity to explore. I started incorporating vibrators and my hands more often, even during penetration. It felt like we were a team trying to figure out what worked best for her. It also brought us closer because we were discovering new ways to enjoy intimacy together. Vibrators, in particular, were a game-changer.
About the thrusting issue—trust me, less can be more. Instead of focusing on how long you can last, think about the quality of the experience. Mix things up with slower, deeper strokes or alternate between thrusting and clitoral stimulation. Sometimes, just holding her close while stimulating her in other ways can be far more intimate and satisfying than going at it for a long time.
If you’re feeling stuck, don’t hesitate to ask her directly what she wants. Women often appreciate it when you show that you care about their pleasure and are willing to adjust. Once you make her feel truly heard, you’ll notice a big difference in her enthusiasm and enjoyment during sex.
When my partner and I faced this, we turned it into an opportunity to explore. I started incorporating vibrators and my hands more often, even during penetration. It felt like we were a team trying to figure out what worked best for her. It also brought us closer because we were discovering new ways to enjoy intimacy together. Vibrators, in particular, were a game-changer.
About the thrusting issue—trust me, less can be more. Instead of focusing on how long you can last, think about the quality of the experience. Mix things up with slower, deeper strokes or alternate between thrusting and clitoral stimulation. Sometimes, just holding her close while stimulating her in other ways can be far more intimate and satisfying than going at it for a long time.
If you’re feeling stuck, don’t hesitate to ask her directly what she wants. Women often appreciate it when you show that you care about their pleasure and are willing to adjust. Once you make her feel truly heard, you’ll notice a big difference in her enthusiasm and enjoyment during sex.