12-01-2024, 07:40 AM
I’ve been in a similar situation, so I can relate. When someone you care about starts comparing you to their past partners or others, it’s tough not to feel inadequate, even if you know it’s not entirely fair. First off, kudos to you for reducing your masturbation habits—that’s not easy, and it shows you’re committed to improving your sex life. But what stands out here is that despite these efforts, she seems more focused on what’s ‘missing’ than what’s already working.
It might be worth revisiting the conversation with her from a different angle. Instead of framing it as something you can’t do, try highlighting what you can do. For instance, you’ve already said you’re good at making sure she’s satisfied. That’s a huge plus! Remind her that intimacy isn’t just about quantity but quality. If she’s truly satisfied after your first orgasm, why push for a second? It could also help to ask her why this is so important to her. Understanding her perspective might help you both find a compromise.
Finally, don’t discount the impact of stress and pressure on performance. The more you feel like you’re being judged, the harder it’s going to be to relax and let things happen naturally. If she’s not willing to acknowledge that and meet you halfway, you need to think about what that means for your relationship moving forward.
It might be worth revisiting the conversation with her from a different angle. Instead of framing it as something you can’t do, try highlighting what you can do. For instance, you’ve already said you’re good at making sure she’s satisfied. That’s a huge plus! Remind her that intimacy isn’t just about quantity but quality. If she’s truly satisfied after your first orgasm, why push for a second? It could also help to ask her why this is so important to her. Understanding her perspective might help you both find a compromise.
Finally, don’t discount the impact of stress and pressure on performance. The more you feel like you’re being judged, the harder it’s going to be to relax and let things happen naturally. If she’s not willing to acknowledge that and meet you halfway, you need to think about what that means for your relationship moving forward.