12-01-2024, 07:40 AM
Man, I feel for you. This kind of pressure can be exhausting, and it’s not fair to you. Let’s unpack this a bit: you’ve already overcome one major hurdle by getting to a place where orgasming during sex is easier. That’s not a small achievement, especially for someone who’s struggled with it in the past. But now she’s raising the bar in a way that feels like she’s overlooking the progress you’ve made. It’s like you’re being graded on a curve that’s based on someone else’s test scores—it doesn’t make sense.
One thing to consider is whether this is really about the orgasms or if it’s tied to a deeper insecurity she might have. Sometimes, people fixate on specific aspects of sex because they equate it with validation or feel like it’s a measure of their desirability. If that’s the case, it’s worth addressing those feelings together instead of treating this as a purely physical problem.
Another angle to explore is pacing. If she really wants two orgasms, maybe try spacing them out more. Focus on her after your first orgasm—maybe a longer session of foreplay or using toys to keep the intimacy going. By the time you’re ready for round two, the pressure might feel less intense. But at the end of the day, your body has limits, and she needs to respect that. A healthy relationship is built on understanding, not on meeting unrealistic standards
One thing to consider is whether this is really about the orgasms or if it’s tied to a deeper insecurity she might have. Sometimes, people fixate on specific aspects of sex because they equate it with validation or feel like it’s a measure of their desirability. If that’s the case, it’s worth addressing those feelings together instead of treating this as a purely physical problem.
Another angle to explore is pacing. If she really wants two orgasms, maybe try spacing them out more. Focus on her after your first orgasm—maybe a longer session of foreplay or using toys to keep the intimacy going. By the time you’re ready for round two, the pressure might feel less intense. But at the end of the day, your body has limits, and she needs to respect that. A healthy relationship is built on understanding, not on meeting unrealistic standards