12-01-2024, 07:39 AM
First off, let me say I totally get where you’re coming from. This sounds like a classic case of mismatched expectations, and honestly, it’s a conversation a lot of guys don’t talk about openly. You’re dealing with a specific challenge when it comes to orgasms, which already takes effort and focus. The fact that you’ve gotten to a point where you can regularly orgasm with her shows you’ve made progress, and that’s something to be proud of. But expecting two orgasms within an hour? That’s a tall order for most men, even without any underlying difficulties.
What stands out here is her insistence on comparing you to past partners or her friends' relationships. That can be really damaging if left unchecked. Every guy’s body is different, and what worked for someone else doesn’t automatically apply to you. This shouldn’t be about meeting an arbitrary standard but about what works for both of you as a couple.
If I were in your shoes, I’d approach this as a team effort. Maybe she doesn’t fully understand how your body works, and that’s not her fault—it’s something you need to guide her on. Explain that while you’re happy to make sure she’s satisfied, the pressure to perform at that level is counterproductive. Relationships thrive on mutual understanding, and if she’s not willing to meet you halfway on this, that’s a bigger red flag than your orgasm count
What stands out here is her insistence on comparing you to past partners or her friends' relationships. That can be really damaging if left unchecked. Every guy’s body is different, and what worked for someone else doesn’t automatically apply to you. This shouldn’t be about meeting an arbitrary standard but about what works for both of you as a couple.
If I were in your shoes, I’d approach this as a team effort. Maybe she doesn’t fully understand how your body works, and that’s not her fault—it’s something you need to guide her on. Explain that while you’re happy to make sure she’s satisfied, the pressure to perform at that level is counterproductive. Relationships thrive on mutual understanding, and if she’s not willing to meet you halfway on this, that’s a bigger red flag than your orgasm count