11-30-2024, 07:11 PM
Man, I can’t imagine how frustrating this must be for you. I’ve been in a similar situation where I felt like sex just wasn’t as fulfilling or didn’t work the way I wanted. For me, I learned that delayed ejaculation is often tied to not being fully in the moment. Sometimes the body just doesn’t respond the way it would in a relaxed environment, and it can be hard to get out of that headspace.
One thing I did that helped was practicing mindfulness techniques. I know it sounds like new-age stuff, but I focused on breathing and just being present in the moment, not thinking about the outcome or how long it would take to orgasm. It really took the pressure off. I also tried reducing expectations—sex doesn’t have to be this grand finale every time. When I relaxed and enjoyed the intimacy for what it was, I noticed improvements.
It’s also important to consider the dynamics with your girlfriend. It sounds like there’s some fear around confronting her, and I totally get that. But if she’s truly supportive, you may find that being open about your struggles makes her want to help and understand you better. It might take time to build up that conversation, but it’s worth it for your mental and emotional health.
Lastly, I agree with others here—seeing a therapist could really help. Having someone to talk to about your performance anxiety, relationship dynamics, and even your fears around pregnancy can make a big difference. It’s all part of the journey, man, and getting help shows strength, not weakness.
One thing I did that helped was practicing mindfulness techniques. I know it sounds like new-age stuff, but I focused on breathing and just being present in the moment, not thinking about the outcome or how long it would take to orgasm. It really took the pressure off. I also tried reducing expectations—sex doesn’t have to be this grand finale every time. When I relaxed and enjoyed the intimacy for what it was, I noticed improvements.
It’s also important to consider the dynamics with your girlfriend. It sounds like there’s some fear around confronting her, and I totally get that. But if she’s truly supportive, you may find that being open about your struggles makes her want to help and understand you better. It might take time to build up that conversation, but it’s worth it for your mental and emotional health.
Lastly, I agree with others here—seeing a therapist could really help. Having someone to talk to about your performance anxiety, relationship dynamics, and even your fears around pregnancy can make a big difference. It’s all part of the journey, man, and getting help shows strength, not weakness.