27 Male - Can hardly orgasm at all regardless. I've run out of things to try

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I have self-diagnosed myself with having delayed ejaculation. Which has the effect of basically making it impossible for me to reach orgasm in sex. Masturbation i can easily do it (both with and without porn) but as soon as i'm with someone. I never happens

I get very close and then just nothing. Blowjobs and Handjobs feel great for me so i know it isn't a nerve damage thing and it's very light in terms of grip, it's not death grip-style. Yet penetrative sex tbh is just a bore for me, even if my gf is being 'rough' it still doesn't work. I'm quite sure she won't go any rougher for fear of hurting me

I'm a switch so i can be both sub and dom. I had a pregnancy scare my very first time i had sex and because i hate kids and right don't want them, i don't want to risk pregnancy. Despite her being on the pill and me using a condom. I'm horrified of bringing these things up with my girlfriend; due to the fact my parents fought a lot when i was a kid (Verbal confrontations, nothing physical) i REALLY don't like confrontation and have very severe anxiety when a hard subject comes up regardless of who i'm speaking to

Other than counselling i have no idea what to do