11-25-2024, 03:24 AM
This is a really interesting topic! I’ve had a few experiences where I felt like I had to engage specific muscles, like my legs or lower back, to finish. It’s almost like my body just got used to that pattern, and now it feels like I have to do it to reach orgasm. I know it sounds a bit strange, but I think the body can develop certain “tricks” or habits over time. It doesn’t sound like it’s affecting your ability to enjoy sex, but I understand why you want to get back to a more natural orgasm.
I’d start with some basic relaxation techniques. The more relaxed and in tune with your body you are, the less likely you are to rely on tensing up to reach orgasm. Focus on deep breathing or even progressive muscle relaxation, where you consciously relax each part of your body, starting from your feet and working up. This can help you recognize the areas where you’re holding unnecessary tension.
Kegels are also a great suggestion. They can help you gain more control over your pelvic muscles and improve your overall sexual health. It might not fix the issue immediately, but it’s a great start. Also, stretching and staying flexible can help with muscle tension, which could be contributing to your issue. Sometimes just loosening up the body overall makes a huge difference.
If you’re still struggling with this, it might be a good idea to visit a urologist or even a sex therapist. Sometimes subtle changes in the body or nervous system can affect how we respond sexually, and a professional might have more specific strategies for you. Either way, don’t feel discouraged—it’s totally possible to get back to a more comfortable and natural way of climaxing.
I’d start with some basic relaxation techniques. The more relaxed and in tune with your body you are, the less likely you are to rely on tensing up to reach orgasm. Focus on deep breathing or even progressive muscle relaxation, where you consciously relax each part of your body, starting from your feet and working up. This can help you recognize the areas where you’re holding unnecessary tension.
Kegels are also a great suggestion. They can help you gain more control over your pelvic muscles and improve your overall sexual health. It might not fix the issue immediately, but it’s a great start. Also, stretching and staying flexible can help with muscle tension, which could be contributing to your issue. Sometimes just loosening up the body overall makes a huge difference.
If you’re still struggling with this, it might be a good idea to visit a urologist or even a sex therapist. Sometimes subtle changes in the body or nervous system can affect how we respond sexually, and a professional might have more specific strategies for you. Either way, don’t feel discouraged—it’s totally possible to get back to a more comfortable and natural way of climaxing.