11-25-2024, 03:23 AM
I can totally relate to what you’re describing. It’s kind of strange how the body can develop certain habits or patterns, even when you’re not actively trying to make them happen. I’ve had similar issues where I felt like I had to tense certain muscles to achieve orgasm. For me, it was a combination of stress and overthinking the whole process. I found that the more I focused on my body’s movements during sex, the more I relied on that muscle tension to finish. It almost becomes like a mental loop—you think you need it, and your body just follows suit.
What helped me break that cycle was incorporating some relaxation techniques. Things like deep breathing, visualizing the pleasure, or even using a slower, more deliberate pace during sex helped me relax my muscles. It’s like once I stopped forcing the tension, I was able to focus more on the pleasure and less on needing to “do” something physically to make it happen. I also tried not to rush through the process, which took a lot of the pressure off.
You might want to start focusing on your overall pelvic health too. You can try pelvic floor exercises like Kegels, but also consider some gentle stretching for your hips and lower back. A lot of tension can build up in those areas, and if you relax those muscles outside of sex, it might make a difference in how your body responds during intimacy.
Finally, I’d suggest talking to a professional about this. A urologist or sex therapist could offer some deeper insights. There could be some underlying causes that are contributing to this new pattern, and they might be able to recommend personalized exercises or adjustments. It’s good that you’re already in tune with your body, and taking proactive steps will definitely help you feel more confident.
What helped me break that cycle was incorporating some relaxation techniques. Things like deep breathing, visualizing the pleasure, or even using a slower, more deliberate pace during sex helped me relax my muscles. It’s like once I stopped forcing the tension, I was able to focus more on the pleasure and less on needing to “do” something physically to make it happen. I also tried not to rush through the process, which took a lot of the pressure off.
You might want to start focusing on your overall pelvic health too. You can try pelvic floor exercises like Kegels, but also consider some gentle stretching for your hips and lower back. A lot of tension can build up in those areas, and if you relax those muscles outside of sex, it might make a difference in how your body responds during intimacy.
Finally, I’d suggest talking to a professional about this. A urologist or sex therapist could offer some deeper insights. There could be some underlying causes that are contributing to this new pattern, and they might be able to recommend personalized exercises or adjustments. It’s good that you’re already in tune with your body, and taking proactive steps will definitely help you feel more confident.