Prostatitis And Still A Virgin At 26

[Babatunde]

Hi

At the age of 18 I was diagnosed with prosatitis which basically means that something as simple as going to the bathroom is very painful. And even worse is having an orgasm is like playing Russian roulette where I've ended up in the hospital because the pain was to much for my regular pain killers to take care of. Because of this I'm now almost 26, I've never had sex or really done anything besides kissing a girl once. In the beginning it was hard to accept but I was able to put a mental block so my sexual desire was basically non existent. But unfortunately I was stupid enough to go out with my friends one night and I met a girl, we started chatting all night an geniuenly had a great time. At first I didn't think it was possible, I'm not saying she is the perfect girl and that there is nothing wrong with her, of course we all have some baggage but she truly is the perfect girl for me. She even asked me out because I've been locked up in my apartment for so long I don't know how to read signals but we've now been out on two dates + we have also just been hanging out both just us and with friends and now I'm starting to get scared.

I really like her but how tha hell am I suppose to be able to have a relationship with a girl when I can't even masturbate without there being some risk of pain and a possible hospital visit. Hell I even have more wet dreams per month then masturbation. I know sex is a really important part of a relationship so I honestly don't know what to do here. It also doesn't help that the only girl I've ever kissed was at a party and stopped making out with me when she felt the outline of my erection. She told me I was a bad kisser and that since her ex was 8-9 inches and I was only 5-5.5 it would just be a waste of her time. It had been two weeks since last time she had sex so "I'm in the mood to get fucked not be a teacher, maybe another time" then she called up her ex and he came to the party and they had loud sex in the bathroom and everyone at the party had heard what she said so it got really awkward and I left. That really messed with my head but now I think I've finally met a girl that I would be comfortable losing my virginity to, but my health problems, penis size and also my inexperience, how can I expect her to just be okay with it. My best case scenario in my head is that I'm able to last 30 seconds and just feel discomfort, and that isn't really how I want my first time to be. I want to for once in my life feel like a man, I want to know what it's like to feel the touch of a woman but I just don't know where to start.

[piciossa]

Hey man, I really feel for you—prostatitis is no joke. Dealing with a chronic condition that affects something as personal and intimate as your sexuality can be incredibly tough. It’s no surprise that it’s left you feeling conflicted and unsure about how to move forward. But first off, I think it’s amazing that you’ve met someone who makes you feel this way. That’s not easy to come by, and it shows there’s potential for connection, even with the challenges you’re facing.

The physical side of things is definitely a hurdle, but it’s not necessarily an insurmountable one. Have you been able to explore different treatments for your prostatitis recently? Medical advancements happen all the time, and there may be therapies or pain management techniques you haven’t tried yet. A specialist, especially one who understands the connection between prostatitis and sexual health, could offer some new insights. You don’t have to face this alone—there’s professional help out there.

On the emotional side, I totally get the fear of rejection and the worry about being judged. That experience at the party would mess with anyone’s confidence, but it’s important to remember that not everyone thinks or behaves that way. The girl you’re seeing now seems to genuinely like you for who you are. If she’s worth pursuing, she’ll care about you beyond just the physical aspect. That said, being honest with her about your condition (when the time feels right) might be the way forward. It’ll take courage, but if she’s understanding, it could deepen your connection.

Finally, try not to put so much pressure on yourself about “performing” or doing everything perfectly the first time. Sex isn’t about lasting a specific amount of time or living up to unrealistic expectations. It’s about connection, trust, and intimacy. Focus on building that with her first, and the rest can follow naturally. If she’s the right person, she’ll be patient, and you can figure out what works for both of you together.

[antonio123]

Man, I’ve got to give you credit for being so open about what you’re going through—it’s not easy to lay it all out there like that. Prostatitis is a beast to deal with, and I can’t imagine how much courage it’s taken to just keep pushing forward. The fact that you’ve met someone who makes you feel this way is huge, though. That connection could be the first step toward something meaningful, even if it’s scary right now.

About your health, have you considered seeking a second opinion or revisiting treatment options? Chronic prostatitis can be tricky, but there are specialists who focus on pelvic pain and related conditions. Sometimes alternative treatments, like physical therapy for the pelvic floor or even certain dietary changes, can make a difference. It might be worth exploring, especially if it could improve your quality of life overall, not just in the bedroom.

I also want to address the mental block you’ve mentioned. That girl at the party? She was out of line, plain and simple. Her actions and words don’t define your worth or your abilities as a partner. It’s easy to let one bad experience take up way more space in your mind than it deserves, but don’t let her negativity overshadow the good things happening in your life now. The fact that this new girl is spending time with you and enjoying your company says a lot about her character and your potential together.

As for your fear about intimacy, take it one step at a time. Maybe start by focusing on building trust and emotional closeness with her before jumping into anything physical. When the time feels right, you can have an open conversation about your health and your concerns. If she’s as great as you think she is, she’ll appreciate your honesty and want to work through it with you.

[hanar123]

Man, I can’t even imagine how hard this must be for you. Dealing with prostatitis on its own is tough, but when it affects something as personal as your sexuality, it can feel overwhelming. But here’s the thing—you’re handling it the best you can, and that’s something to be proud of. Meeting this girl and building a connection is a huge step forward, even if it’s bringing up all these fears and doubts.

I know you’re worried about how your condition might impact a relationship, but I think you’re underestimating the value of communication. If this girl really is the perfect match for you, she’ll be understanding when you’re ready to share what’s going on. You don’t have to lay it all out at once, but opening up gradually can help build trust and make you feel less isolated in this struggle.

As for the physical side, I’ve heard of guys with prostatitis finding some relief through alternative therapies like acupuncture, physical therapy, or even mindfulness techniques. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution, but it might be worth exploring. At the very least, it could help reduce some of the discomfort and give you a bit more confidence.

Lastly, remember that sex isn’t the only way to build intimacy in a relationship. Take your time to explore other ways of connecting with her—whether it’s through shared experiences, deep conversations, or just being there for each other. The right person will appreciate you for who you are, not just what you can do in bed.

[deigo123]

Bro, first of all, let me say—you’re not alone. There are plenty of guys dealing with prostatitis and the emotional toll it takes, even if it feels like you’re the only one sometimes. What you’re going through is incredibly tough, and it’s made even harder by how society puts so much emphasis on sex as this measure of manhood. But trust me, your value isn’t determined by your sexual history or how “perfect” your first time is.

The girl you’ve met sounds amazing, and it’s clear she sees something special in you. That’s huge, man. It’s also worth noting that she’s stuck around through multiple dates and hangouts. If she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t be putting in that kind of time and effort. That shows she’s interested in you as a person, not just the physical side of things. That’s the kind of foundation you want in a relationship.

On the physical side, I know prostatitis can feel like a brick wall, but there are ways to manage it. Have you looked into pelvic floor physical therapy or even speaking with a urologist who specializes in chronic pain? It might not fix everything, but every little improvement counts. You might also consider finding a counselor or therapist who can help you work through the emotional side of this. Sometimes having someone to talk to can lighten the load and give you tools to handle the anxiety.

When it comes to sex, don’t feel like you have to rush into it or meet some imaginary standard. If and when you’re ready to take that step, focus on communicating openly with her about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re dealing with. If she’s the right person, she’ll care more about making it a good experience for both of you than anything else.

[amravat123]

Dude, reading your story really hit me. You’ve been through a lot, and it’s clear how much this situation is weighing on you. But the fact that you’ve met someone who makes you feel this way is incredible. Don’t let your fears rob you of the chance to explore something meaningful with her. If she’s showing genuine interest in you, that’s a sign she sees more than just the surface.

Prostatitis is such a difficult condition to deal with, especially when it comes to relationships. Have you talked to a specialist recently? There are new treatments and approaches being developed all the time, and it’s possible something out there could help manage your symptoms better. Even small improvements could make a big difference in how you feel day-to-day.

The mental and emotional scars from that party experience are probably making this even harder for you. But man, that girl doesn’t deserve any space in your head. Her behavior says way more about her than it does about you. The girl you’re seeing now isn’t her. If she’s as amazing as you think she is, she’ll care about your feelings and want to work through things with you.

Take things slow, and don’t put so much pressure on yourself to have everything figured out right away. Relationships are about more than just sex—they’re about trust, connection, and being there for each other. When you’re ready, have an honest conversation with her about your condition and your worries. If she’s the right person, she’ll appreciate your vulnerability and want to support you. You’ve got this, man.