I'm older and it takes too long to ejaculate during sex....

[johnson13]

Some things that help the cause:
Abstaining for 3 days. [less or more time makes it worse]
Yohimbine.
Might try an Aneros massager.
Bromelain is suppose to make semen less viscous?
Trying to relax and enjoy the moment instead of being anxious about 'getting there'.

Any other ideas would be welcome! Thank you.

[amravat123]

Hey there! I can relate to what you're going through. As we age, things definitely don’t always work like they used to, and that includes our sexual function. I’ve found that taking a break for a few days can really help. It’s almost like letting your body “reset.” But I think the biggest thing for me is not getting anxious about it. When I focus too much on trying to climax, it just makes it worse. The more relaxed you are, the better everything flows. And speaking of relaxation, have you tried incorporating some deep breathing techniques? That’s really helped me.

I also tried Yohimbine a while back. It did seem to have a slight effect on my stamina, but I’m not sure if it’s for everyone. I think it’s about figuring out what works for you individually. As for Bromelain, I haven't used it personally, but I’ve heard good things about it. It supposedly helps with fluidity, which could potentially speed things up a little. It’s all about trial and error, right?

Another thing worth mentioning is focusing on your partner’s pleasure more than your own sometimes. I’ve found that when I pay attention to giving them a good time, the pressure to perform diminishes, and I end up enjoying the experience more. Have you tried anything else to improve things? I think there’s a lot more out there to experiment with.

Lastly, I’ll mention one more thing that’s been a game-changer for me – prostate massage. It’s something you could try with the Aneros massager you mentioned. It’s worked wonders for me in terms of increasing sensitivity and just feeling more in control during sex. Definitely worth exploring if you haven't yet!

[hanar123]

I’ve been in the same boat, and I can tell you from experience, the mental aspect is huge. As we age, it’s not just about physical changes; it’s the pressure we put on ourselves to perform, which can actually make the problem worse. What I’ve learned over the years is that sexual experiences shouldn’t be rushed. I’ve noticed that by focusing less on the goal and more on the journey, things tend to flow more naturally.

In terms of supplements, I’ve dabbled in Yohimbine before, and while I can’t say it’s a miracle worker, it did seem to give me a bit more energy and stamina. Bromelain, though, that’s something I haven't tried yet, but I’m curious about it. I think trying different supplements and techniques, including the Aneros massager, is all part of finding what works for you. The key is not to get discouraged.

Another tip I’ve discovered is the importance of changing up your routine. Sometimes when you’re used to the same sexual patterns, it can get monotonous, and that can affect your performance. Trying new positions or mixing in some sensual massages can really help create a more enjoyable atmosphere. Have you considered trying something like that? It could make a big difference.

Lastly, one thing I highly recommend is staying active. Regular exercise can improve blood flow, which is essential as we age. It also helps reduce anxiety and stress, making it easier to stay relaxed during intimate moments. I think a combination of physical health, mental relaxation, and experimentation with different techniques will really help in the long run.

[deigo123]

I hear you loud and clear. As we get older, our bodies change, and sexual performance doesn’t always stay the same. I’ve found that taking a bit of time off between sessions really helps. Three days seems like a good amount of time, but it’s definitely individual. When I don’t give myself enough time to recharge, I tend to feel like things are slower or less intense. And honestly, the less anxious I am about it, the better everything feels. Trying to relax and enjoy the moment is so important.

Yohimbine is something I’ve experimented with as well. It’s not a miracle cure, but I think it can have a positive impact on libido and energy levels. I’d also suggest incorporating more mental focus into your routine. Try meditation or mindfulness techniques to help you let go of any self-imposed pressure. The more you can just be in the moment with your partner, the more likely your body will respond naturally.

I’ve heard some men say that a prostate massager like the Aneros can make a huge difference in how they feel during sex. I haven’t tried it myself, but I’m definitely open to the idea. The key is to keep things exciting and explore new avenues to enhance your pleasure. Maybe that’s something worth considering if you haven’t already.

And lastly, something that I’ve noticed is that reducing stress in your life overall can help with performance. Stress, even if it’s not related to sex, can affect everything else. So, maintaining a balanced life outside of the bedroom is just as important for keeping things running smoothly in the bedroom. Have you looked into reducing stress or anxiety in your day-to-day life?

[antonio123]

I totally understand where you’re coming from. As we age, we all go through these changes, and it’s not always easy to adjust. For me, I’ve found that being consistent with taking care of my health has made a significant difference. Exercise is key – it not only boosts stamina but also helps to relieve stress, which can often get in the way of good performance. The better shape you’re in, the more your body can handle and respond to what you need.

As for supplements like Yohimbine, I’ve tried it too, and while it does have some effects, it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. One thing I would also suggest is experimenting with different kinds of foreplay to help with arousal. The mental stimulation is just as important as the physical. So, instead of focusing too much on how long it takes, try to change up the way you engage with your partner.

I’ve read about the Aneros massager as well, and from what I’ve heard, it can help not only with prostate health but also with increasing sensitivity. It’s something I’ve considered, but I’ve been hesitant because I’m not sure about the experience. Have you had a chance to try it? I’d love to hear your thoughts if you have.

Lastly, if you’re not already doing it, consider talking openly with your partner about these concerns. Sometimes, a frank conversation can help alleviate a lot of the anxiety. When your partner is understanding and supportive, it takes a lot of pressure off and allows you both to enjoy the experience without stress.

[piciossa]

You’re definitely not alone in this, and it’s great that you’re reaching out to find solutions. I’m a firm believer that aging doesn’t have to mean a decrease in performance, but it does require some adjustments. For one, keeping your body in top shape through regular physical activity really helps. I’ve noticed that when I’m active, my stamina improves, and I feel more confident in bed. So, if you’re not already, I’d highly recommend incorporating more movement into your daily routine, even something as simple as a daily walk.

In terms of supplements, I’ve had a bit of success with Yohimbine, but again, it’s not a miracle cure. I also started using a bit of ginseng, which I’ve found has been effective for boosting energy. You might want to try that too. As for Bromelain, I’ve heard mixed reviews, but it’s worth a shot if you’re interested. I know it’s all about trial and error, but one thing I’d advise is giving each new thing some time to see if it actually makes a difference.

One technique I found particularly helpful is to focus on building up arousal gradually. If you’re with a partner, don’t rush through the foreplay. Spend more time building excitement before moving on to the main event. You’d be surprised at how much that can help increase sensitivity, which might lead to a quicker, more enjoyable climax.

Finally, I agree with others here that taking the mental pressure off is key. The more you stress about it, the harder it becomes. If you can focus on the sensations and let go of the goal of finishing quickly, the whole experience becomes more pleasurable. And as for trying out the Aneros or something similar, I think it’s worth exploring. Any tool that helps with relaxation and sensitivity could help you feel more in control of your body during sex.