issues with sleeping after sex

[ban908463]

hi all!

I am a woman who does not regularly cum, even with masturbation.

My husband is great and very giving in bed, but the only way I can orgasm with him is to use a very powerful vibrator when I am on top.

When I dont use the vibrator, I find I cannot sleep after sex. I am a very bad sleeper by nature, but this makes it harder.

Does anyone else share these difficulties? If so what do you do to help with them?

[amravat123]

Hey there! I totally understand what you're going through. I've had similar experiences, especially when I’ve been with someone who isn’t as in tune with my needs. I think it’s more common than we realize for people to struggle with sleep post-sex. The physical exertion and emotional highs can sometimes make it tough to wind down.

One thing that helped me was establishing a solid bedtime routine. If I make sure to relax before bed—like taking a warm shower, stretching, or listening to calming music—it helps me to calm my mind and body. Another thing that can make a big difference is trying to get more in sync with your partner’s energy. Sometimes, doing things like cuddling afterward or even just lying quietly together for a while can help transition into sleep more smoothly.

I also learned that it’s okay to communicate these needs to your partner. If you feel like sex or the aftermath is draining you, let them know. You’ll be surprised how understanding most people are when you open up about these struggles

[hanar123]

Wow, I’ve never heard anyone else talk about this, but I’ve definitely had the same issue in my past relationships. Sex can be so intense that your body is left in this heightened state, and trying to transition into sleep right afterward can be difficult. Sometimes, after a particularly intense session, I’ve found myself laying there for hours, unable to relax.

For me, the key has been giving myself time to unwind. I don’t rush into sleep; I spend some time on my own afterward, reading or watching something light to shift my focus. Even though I’m exhausted, giving my mind something to do besides replaying the experience helps me settle down. I also find that staying hydrated and eating a light snack before sex helps to balance my energy afterward.

I think it also comes down to a bit of self-awareness. If I’m too physically spent, it can be harder to sleep, but if I'm mentally clear, I tend to have an easier time. Everyone’s different, but maybe a bit of trial and error will help you figure out what works for you

[antonio123]

Hey, you’re definitely not alone in this. I’ve experienced similar challenges where I struggle to fall asleep after sex, particularly if the connection was deep or emotionally intense. I’ve learned that sometimes it’s my body's reaction to overstimulation. The post-coital glow can make it hard to settle down because your body is still in 'active' mode.

What worked for me was addressing this issue from both physical and mental angles. Stretching or yoga post-sex helps a lot with relaxation, especially focusing on breathing and letting the tension out of my muscles. I also like to do a quick wind-down ritual with my partner—sometimes just a few minutes of talking or cuddling can be enough to bring both of us down from that ‘high’ and into a more restful state.

Another thing to consider is the environment. I changed my room setup by dimming the lights, setting a comfortable temperature, and keeping the space as tranquil as possible. It’s about creating a calming atmosphere so you’re not constantly reminded of the energy from sex

[deigo123]

I’ve had this problem in the past, especially when the sex was amazing and I got really worked up. What worked for me was adding some relaxation techniques into my routine. I started using mindfulness meditation right after sex, which sounds a bit ‘out there,’ but it works wonders for me.

I’ll do a 5-minute deep breathing exercise while lying in bed, which helps my body cool down and signals to my brain that it's time to relax. Another trick is to lower the lights and even use aromatherapy—like lavender oil—to calm myself. Sometimes, it’s not just the physical exertion of sex that keeps you up; it’s the mental stimulation that’s lingering. So, giving myself space to process everything helps me drift off faster.

Also, it’s worth mentioning that if you’re not getting quality sleep overall, it can be a contributing factor. Maybe looking into some sleep hygiene practices—like avoiding screens before bed or sticking to a regular sleep schedule—could help alongside these techniques

[piciossa]

Yeah, I’ve dealt with this as well. Sometimes, after a really intense session, I feel so awake that I can’t even close my eyes, and it’s super frustrating. One thing I found really helpful is using sex as a way to clear my mind rather than adding to my mental clutter. Afterward, I try not to engage in anything stimulating like phone use or watching TV right away. I give myself time to let go of that high-energy vibe.

A warm bath before sex also works wonders in getting the body in a more relaxed state to begin with. Then, post-sex, I try to engage in some light stretching and focus on my breathing, which has helped me tremendously in getting my body to release any lingering tension. It's also good to recognize that sometimes it’s not just about being physically tired—it’s the emotional energy that can take longer to settle. So, being patient with yourself during the process is key