Anal Masterbating Pain?

[daniel74]

I’m a guy, and I’m new to this whole fingering thing. I’ve been fingering myself in the shower or bedroom (lube is used) with a slow to medium speed, but it hurts like hell every time. I’ve heard you’re supposed to get used to it in time, but it still hurts. Am I doing something wrong?
Exploring one’s body is a natural part of self-discovery, and it’s great that you’re taking the time to experiment and learn what feels good.

However, pain isn’t supposed to be part of the experience. While a little discomfort might be normal at first, persistent pain is a sign that something might not be quite right. It could be a matter of technique, preparation, or simply allowing your body to adjust more gradually. Rushing into things too quickly can sometimes cause unnecessary strain, leading to discomfort instead of pleasure.


One important factor to consider is relaxation. If you’re tense, your muscles will naturally resist, making penetration more difficult and painful. Taking deep breaths, easing into the experience, and allowing yourself to be in a comfortable position can help. The shower or bedroom setting is a good start, but making sure you're fully relaxed before beginning is just as important. Some people find that warm water, deep breathing exercises, or even light external stimulation beforehand can make a big difference.


Lube is a great addition, but the type of lube matters as well. Some water-based lubes dry out quickly, leading to friction, while others might not be as compatible with your body’s natural sensitivity. Trying a thicker, long-lasting lube, like a high-quality silicone-based one, might make the process smoother and more comfortable. Also, using just one or two fingers at first, rather than trying to go deeper or add more pressure, can allow your body to gradually adapt.


It’s also worth paying attention to how you’re positioning your fingers and what angle you’re using. The body has natural curves and sensitive areas, and if something is causing sharp pain, it could be a sign that you need to adjust your approach. Slow, circular motions or gently exploring different angles instead of applying direct pressure might help you find a method that feels better. The key is to listen to your body rather than forcing something that doesn’t feel right.


Ultimately, pleasure should never come at the expense of pain. If the discomfort persists even with adjustments in technique, relaxation, and lube, it might be worth considering whether there’s another underlying issue at play. Some people naturally take longer to adjust, while others might have sensitivity that requires even more gradual exploration. The most important thing is to be patient with yourself, go at your own pace, and remember that self-exploration should be about enjoyment, not endurance.

[hanar123]

I totally get where you're coming from, man. When I first started experimenting with this, I had the same issue—pain and discomfort instead of pleasure. One thing I realized is that patience is key. The body needs time to adjust, especially if you’re not used to any kind of penetration. It’s not just about physically getting used to it, but also mentally relaxing into the experience.

One thing that really helped me was focusing more on warming up. Instead of going straight for penetration, I’d spend some time stimulating externally. Just running my fingers around the area, applying pressure in different ways, and letting my body get used to the sensation made a huge difference. It helped me get more aroused and loosen up before actually going in.

Also, lube makes a huge difference, but not all lubes work the same way. I found that some water-based lubes dry out too quickly, making things even more uncomfortable. A silicone-based lube lasted way longer and made everything way smoother. If you haven't tried that, I highly recommend it.

And lastly, I’d say don’t force anything. If something hurts, ease up and try a different approach. Maybe try a different angle, a different position, or even a smaller finger. It’s all about going slow and figuring out what feels best for your body. The more you experiment, the more you’ll understand what works for you.

[amravat123]

Dude, I had the exact same problem when I first tried this, and it turned out I was just way too tense. I didn’t realize how much mental relaxation played a role in this kind of play. If you’re clenching up or even slightly nervous about the experience, your muscles will instinctively tighten, and that’s going to make everything hurt way more than it should.

What helped me was deep breathing and actually taking time to enjoy the process. Instead of focusing on "doing it right," I focused on how it felt. I started with very light external stimulation, then gradually worked my way to penetration. When I finally got there, I kept breathing deeply, exhaling as I inserted a finger, which helped my muscles stay relaxed.

I also found that position really mattered. When I tried doing it standing up in the shower, it was super uncomfortable. But when I laid down on my side with my legs slightly curled up, everything felt way more natural and less forced. Experimenting with different positions could make a huge difference for you.

Lastly, if the pain isn’t going away, maybe you’re being too aggressive with it. Start small, use a generous amount of lube, and don’t push past discomfort. You should be able to feel a stretching sensation, but it should never be sharp pain. Listen to your body, and if something doesn’t feel right, adjust accordingly.

[deigo123]

I went through this too when I first started experimenting. One of the biggest game changers for me was figuring out the right angle and pressure. At first, I was just inserting my finger straight in, and that was actually causing unnecessary pain because I wasn’t following the natural curve of my body. Once I started angling my finger slightly downward, it became a lot more comfortable.

Also, the way you apply pressure is super important. Instead of pushing in quickly, try more of a massaging motion. Slow, circular movements at the entrance help your muscles loosen up before you go any deeper. I also realized that just forcing my way in wasn’t doing me any favors. If it hurt, I would just stop, apply more lube, and start again even slower.

Another thing that might help is pre-stretching. If you’ve never done anything like this before, your muscles aren’t used to it, and it’s like trying to force something into a space that isn’t ready. Using something smaller first, like a single fingertip or even just light external pressure, can help train your body to relax.

I know it can be frustrating when you’re expecting pleasure but getting pain instead. Just remind yourself that this is a process, and the more you practice, the easier it gets. Pay attention to your body, try different techniques, and don’t rush yourself.

[piciossa]

I can totally relate to this, man. When I first started experimenting, I made the mistake of using cheap lube that dried out way too fast, which led to way more friction and pain than I expected. Once I switched to a good silicone-based lube, things became a lot smoother—literally. A thicker lube stays slick longer and reduces that uncomfortable drag.

Beyond that, I also found that warming up properly made a huge difference. Jumping straight into penetration wasn’t doing me any favors. Instead, I spent some time massaging around the area, getting used to the sensations, and letting my body naturally relax before even thinking about inserting a finger. It made the whole experience much more enjoyable.

Another tip that worked for me was adjusting my mindset. If you go into it tense or worried about pain, your body will reflect that tension. Instead of expecting discomfort, I started focusing on pleasure—taking my time, being patient, and just feeling things out rather than forcing it.

If you’re still experiencing pain after all of that, it might be worth checking in with a professional. Sometimes, persistent pain can be a sign of an underlying issue, but in most cases, it’s just a matter of going slow, using the right techniques, and giving your body time to adjust.

[antonio123]

Bro, I had the same experience when I first started experimenting. I thought the pain was normal at first, but then I realized I was just going way too fast. The key is patience. Your body needs time to adjust, and if you push too hard, you’re just going to make things worse.

One trick that worked for me was focusing on arousal first. When you’re turned on, your body naturally relaxes, making penetration way easier. I found that if I stimulated myself in other ways first, I was way more open and receptive to the experience. Instead of just going straight for it, I took my time and let my body warm up.

Another thing to consider is your finger placement. If you’re experiencing sharp pain, it might be because you’re hitting a sensitive area or applying too much pressure. Try using just the tip at first, and experiment with different angles. Sometimes, a small adjustment can make a huge difference in comfort.

The biggest takeaway for me was that pain is never a good sign. A little discomfort? Sure, that’s normal at first. But if it’s hurting every time, something needs to change. Just take your time, use a lot of lube, and listen to what your body is telling you. Trust me, once you find what works, it’s a whole new level of pleasure.