01-28-2025, 06:10 AM
My girlfriend only climaxes after oral. While she genuinely enjoys sex and seems fully engaged during the experience, she’s never been able to reach climax through intercourse alone. What’s more, she’s mentioned that she’s never even made herself orgasm through masturbation, which she says she doesn’t do often. This has left me with a lot of questions and curiosity, not just about her experiences but about how I can help her feel even more satisfied and connected during our intimate moments.
She’s very open about the fact that oral sex is what gets her there. She says the sensations are more direct and focused, which helps her achieve that buildup of pleasure that eventually leads to an orgasm. During sex, she feels good and enjoys the closeness, but it doesn’t bring her to the same point. Sometimes, I wonder if it’s because the sensations from penetration alone aren’t as concentrated on the clitoris, which I know is often the primary source of pleasure for many women.
I’ve also noticed that she doesn’t seem frustrated by it. She’s never acted like it’s a problem that she can’t climax from sex alone. In fact, she’s reassured me multiple times that she’s completely satisfied because she loves the emotional connection we share during sex. Still, I can’t help but feel like I want to give her more. I want her to experience everything she possibly can when we’re together. It’s not about my ego; it’s about wanting her to feel the best she’s ever felt.
At the same time, I’m curious about her relationship with her own body. Since she’s never made herself climax, I wonder if there’s a deeper disconnect or maybe just a lack of exploration. I’ve read that many women discover their preferences through self-exploration, and that helps them communicate what works for them in a relationship. Since she hasn’t had that experience, I wonder if it’s affecting her ability to climax during sex.
I also wonder if this is something other people have experienced. Is it common for women to only climax during oral? Does it mean there’s something missing in our sexual dynamic, or is it simply how her body works? I’ve read that some women find penetration alone less stimulating because it doesn’t focus on the clitoris, but I’d love to hear from others who’ve dealt with similar situations.
Overall, I’m grateful that we’re able to talk openly about these things. Our communication is strong, and I think that’s why I feel comfortable bringing up my thoughts and concerns with her. Still, I’d love any advice or insights from others who’ve had similar experiences. How did you handle it? Did you try new things, or did you just accept that oral was the main way to climax? I’d love to hear any suggestions that could help us grow even closer in this aspect of our relationship.
She’s very open about the fact that oral sex is what gets her there. She says the sensations are more direct and focused, which helps her achieve that buildup of pleasure that eventually leads to an orgasm. During sex, she feels good and enjoys the closeness, but it doesn’t bring her to the same point. Sometimes, I wonder if it’s because the sensations from penetration alone aren’t as concentrated on the clitoris, which I know is often the primary source of pleasure for many women.
I’ve also noticed that she doesn’t seem frustrated by it. She’s never acted like it’s a problem that she can’t climax from sex alone. In fact, she’s reassured me multiple times that she’s completely satisfied because she loves the emotional connection we share during sex. Still, I can’t help but feel like I want to give her more. I want her to experience everything she possibly can when we’re together. It’s not about my ego; it’s about wanting her to feel the best she’s ever felt.
At the same time, I’m curious about her relationship with her own body. Since she’s never made herself climax, I wonder if there’s a deeper disconnect or maybe just a lack of exploration. I’ve read that many women discover their preferences through self-exploration, and that helps them communicate what works for them in a relationship. Since she hasn’t had that experience, I wonder if it’s affecting her ability to climax during sex.
I also wonder if this is something other people have experienced. Is it common for women to only climax during oral? Does it mean there’s something missing in our sexual dynamic, or is it simply how her body works? I’ve read that some women find penetration alone less stimulating because it doesn’t focus on the clitoris, but I’d love to hear from others who’ve dealt with similar situations.
Overall, I’m grateful that we’re able to talk openly about these things. Our communication is strong, and I think that’s why I feel comfortable bringing up my thoughts and concerns with her. Still, I’d love any advice or insights from others who’ve had similar experiences. How did you handle it? Did you try new things, or did you just accept that oral was the main way to climax? I’d love to hear any suggestions that could help us grow even closer in this aspect of our relationship.