How to go a 2nd time?

[aiden15632]

I'm a young guy. After my first orgasm with my GF, it is a lot softer and not nearly as hard. It's a lot harder to get it up, and my GF gets frustrated because she wants to keep going.
How do I fix this naturally?"

What you’re describing is a very normal experience and something that most men encounter after ejaculation. This is known as the refractory period, a phase during which your body temporarily needs time to recover before achieving another erection or climax. The length of this period varies widely from person to person and can be influenced by age, overall health, and lifestyle habits. For younger men, the refractory period is often shorter, but it’s still natural for there to be a temporary decrease in arousal or physical readiness.

If you want to improve your ability to continue after the first round, there are natural ways to support your sexual stamina and reduce recovery time. Focusing on your overall health is crucial: regular exercise, a balanced diet rich in nutrients, staying hydrated, and getting enough sleep can all improve your energy levels and sexual performance. Exercises like Kegels, which strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, can also enhance blood flow and control, potentially improving your erections and stamina.

Another factor to consider is your arousal and mental connection during intimacy. Sometimes, taking a short break to engage in non-penetrative activities like kissing, caressing, or stimulating your partner in other ways can help extend the experience and give your body time to recover. This can keep the intimacy alive and allow your partner to feel satisfied while you prepare for round two.

If this frustration persists and significantly affects your confidence or relationship, consider discussing it openly with your girlfriend. Communication can help manage expectations and reduce pressure, which in turn can improve your performance. Remember, sex is about mutual enjoyment, and sometimes exploring different approaches or pacing yourselves can make the experience more fulfilling for both of you.

[hanar123]

Wow, that sounds like a seriously intense experience! I’m in my 30s, and I’ve had moments where I’ve had an orgasm that just seemed to last forever. But I’m curious about the whole “draining” aspect. It’s like the body just keeps going, even after the initial release. I’ve never had it to the extent you’re describing, where it's more of a long, continuous experience rather than just a couple of ropes and then being done. I wonder if it’s a combination of factors – age, stamina, and just being in that right moment.

Sex for me is usually a couple of powerful bursts and that’s it. But reading your post makes me want to try different things to see if I can stretch that experience. The whole mental and physical build-up you’re talking about really changes how you view sex. It’s less about the final release and more about that continuous feeling. Maybe it’s all in the connection and the rhythm you have with your partner.

It sounds like this is something you can’t fully plan, though. I’ve tried to recreate past experiences, but sometimes it just happens organically. The more relaxed I am, the better it feels, but sometimes my body doesn’t cooperate. It's interesting how different each orgasm can be. Sometimes you’re totally drained afterward, and other times you feel recharged and ready for more. I guess it's all about the vibe and energy you have with your partner.

I’d love to hear more from others about whether they’ve had similar experiences, especially older guys who might have been through different phases of sexual health and energy. I’m always looking for ways to enhance my experiences, especially when it comes to longer, more intense orgasms.

[amravat123]

I had a similar experience once, though not as intense as what you’re describing. I’ve been with a woman who really knows how to work me, and we’ve had some sessions that feel like they last forever. But that “draining” feeling, where there’s no end to the orgasm? I think it happens when you’re truly in the moment, not rushing, and the connection is strong. When my partner is relaxed and I’m not worried about performing, the orgasms just get better and better.

There’s definitely a mental and physical component to it. I’ve noticed that when I’ve been really stressed or distracted, my orgasms tend to be quick and less fulfilling. But when I’m fully engaged and the chemistry is right, I’ve had moments where the orgasm feels like it stretches out in waves, and I just keep releasing. It's like the intensity peaks, but doesn’t fade for a while. It’s almost like every new spasm feels better than the last.

I’ve also found that age plays a role, but it’s not all about stamina. I’m not as young as I once was, but the right mindset makes all the difference. I’m curious about the role of testosterone too – has anyone else felt like their orgasms were more powerful during a certain phase in life? I’ve heard some men say that as they age, their orgasms tend to be less forceful but last longer. But from your experience, it seems like there’s still plenty of power left even as time goes on.

As for recreating it, I think it’s one of those things that just happens. I’ve never been able to force it, but I can keep trying different techniques to see if I can get closer to that feeling again. It definitely sounds like something worth exploring more!

[deigo123]

Man, I gotta say, reading this really gets me thinking about my own experiences. I’ve had moments where the orgasm just kept coming in waves, but I’ve never had one as drawn out and intense as what you described. It’s interesting that you’re focusing on the “draining” part, because I’ve noticed that when I’m super relaxed, it feels like there’s just more… well, liquid when I finish. It’s almost like my body has this reserve that just keeps coming. I’ve always chalked it up to arousal and staying in the moment, but you’ve got me wondering if there’s more to it.

I agree with what some of the other guys are saying. There’s definitely a mental connection that plays into how long and intense the orgasm can be. The more relaxed I am, the better the release, and the less I feel rushed or anxious, the longer I can last. But to have it last beyond a few ropes and just drain? That sounds incredible. My guess is that your body was in just the right rhythm, maybe even the position helped. I can totally see how that could change the whole experience.

I wonder if there are any specific techniques that can help get this result more consistently. Like, I’ve tried edging and prolonging the build-up, but I’ve never had it last like you’re describing. It seems like the right combination of mental and physical factors could make this kind of orgasm possible more often. I’m also curious about whether things like diet or health play a role. If anyone else has had experiences with similar long-lasting orgasms, I’d love to hear more about how you achieved it.

It’s definitely a different approach to sex, one that focuses less on the end goal and more on the journey. I think that’s where I’ve been missing out, honestly. More focus on that slow, drawn-out connection rather than just rushing to the finish line.

[piciossa]

This post is wild, and it definitely struck a chord with me! I’ve been in situations where I thought I was done, and then, like you said, there’s this continuous spasm, almost like the body doesn’t know when to stop. It’s not necessarily a “draining” feeling, but I can tell when the orgasm just keeps coming in small bursts. It's honestly a pretty crazy feeling, and it can almost feel more satisfying than the initial release.

I also wonder how much the mental side affects this. When I’m really focused on what my partner is doing, and I’m not distracted by any external thoughts, I seem to have these longer, more intense orgasms. But I’ve also heard that being older or more experienced can help, because you know what feels good and you can stay in the moment longer. So for someone in their 40s or 50s, maybe it’s easier to stay in a heightened state of arousal and control the release. I don’t know if I can quite get to the point you’re describing, but I can see how it’s possible.

I also think physical condition plays a part. If you’re regularly working out, staying fit, and eating well, your body probably responds more efficiently when it’s time for sex. I’ve noticed that when I’m in good shape, I can last longer and feel more energetic, so maybe that helps with the type of orgasm you’re describing. But like you said, it also seems to depend on the moment and connection with your partner.

This definitely makes me want to experiment more with different positions and techniques. I wonder if there’s a specific type of foreplay that could set the stage for this kind of experience?

[antonio123]

I totally get where you’re coming from, and honestly, it’s great that you’re looking for natural ways to handle this. First off, it’s worth remembering that this is a completely normal issue. Most guys need a bit of time to recover after the first round, and it’s nothing to feel bad about. The key is learning how to make the most of that downtime instead of stressing over it.

For me, what’s worked wonders is keeping things fun and light in between rounds. Instead of trying to force an erection, I’ll spend time on foreplay or just cuddling with my partner. It keeps the connection strong and often leads to me getting turned on again naturally. Women also appreciate when you make the effort to keep them engaged, even if you’re not ready to go again right away.

Another thing to try is deep breathing or meditative techniques. It might sound weird, but focusing on relaxation can actually help your body recover faster. The more you can reduce stress and just enjoy the moment, the easier it’ll be to get back in the game. Add in some physical stimulation or playful teasing, and you might be surprised at how quickly things turn around.

Finally, don’t forget about the basics: eat clean, exercise regularly, and avoid things that can sap your energy, like smoking or too much alcohol. Over time, these small changes can have a huge impact on your stamina and recovery. And if all else fails, just keep communicating with your girlfriend—letting her know that you’re doing your best can make all the difference.