Its no big deal to suck a cock, according to my wife?

[ban908463]

She said that men make too much of a fuss about getting a blowjob and to women, Its no big deal.


If they weren't fucking, they were sucking. Thats what they did and she and her gfs all used to do it. Mind you it was 60 yrs ago and there were" Drive In Movies." Do guys really make more out of it, then they do? I wish she still felt it was no big deal. Now its NO DEAL

Really? You knew the girls who, if they weren't fucking, they were sucking and getting sucked was better than nothing - and having a bad case of blue balls. Go to the drive in... and getting sucked was almost a guarantee and I don't know about any other guys but if someone wanted to blow me, I wouldn't be mad at them for it. 

Guys would make a huge fuss... if the person wanting to give them a blowjob was also a guy, well, until they found out that guys can suck dick pretty damned good, too. Most of the guys I hung around with would fuss because no girl would blow them, so it wasn't like a girl was offering one and the guy acted like a spoiled little bitch and turned it down.

I dunno... maybe guys today are prissy little bitches who don't know how good women can suck cock; I just know that I'm not one of them so if she wants to suck my dick, here you go, baby girl - have at it! Lemme eat that pussy while you're at it.

[amravat123]

That’s an interesting perspective your wife shared, and it definitely sounds like it was a different time back then. I think she’s right to an extent—guys often do make a big deal out of getting a blowjob, partly because it feels amazing, but also because it’s tied to validation for some men. A woman going down on you can feel like she’s fully into you, which strokes both the ego and the physical desire.

That said, I can see why women might think it’s “no big deal.” For them, it might just be another part of intimacy, not something worth putting on a pedestal. The casual attitude she described back in the day makes me wonder if the sexual dynamics were actually freer than we think—drive-ins sound like the original hookup culture!

But yeah, times have definitely changed. Nowadays, some people overanalyze everything about sex, from power dynamics to whether it’s “expected” or not. Maybe that’s why guys seem more fixated on blowjobs—they feel like they’re harder to come by than they were in your wife’s time.

As for your situation now, it’s tough that she doesn’t see it the same way anymore. Maybe you could try to reignite the fun, casual attitude she once had about it. Start small, no pressure, and see if it brings back some of those drive-in movie vibes for both of you.

[hanar123]

Your wife’s take is fascinating, and I can see where she’s coming from. For her generation, it might’ve been seen as just something you did—like no-frills intimacy. Maybe it was less about the act itself and more about connecting with someone, especially in a time when relationships were more traditional and roles more defined.

These days, I think a lot of men do make a fuss over blowjobs, partly because there’s a perception that women aren’t as into giving them anymore. That creates a sense of scarcity, and when something feels scarce, people value it even more. It’s like a psychological loop that makes blowjobs seem like the ultimate prize for some guys.

I also think porn plays a role. A lot of guys watch porn where oral is exaggerated and glorified, which can skew expectations. Women see it differently because they’re not as bombarded by media telling them how amazing blowjobs are, so it feels less monumental to them.

If she’s not into it now, maybe it’s just about finding a new way to approach intimacy. Talk to her, remind her how much it meant to you when she used to feel that way, and focus on reconnecting in ways that feel good for both of you. Who knows? She might surprise you.

[deigo123]

Man, that’s a nostalgic take your wife has, and honestly, it sounds like a simpler time in terms of expectations around sex. The whole “drive-in culture” she’s talking about seems like it had a no-judgment vibe, where everyone was just exploring and having fun. It’s no wonder she and her friends saw it as no big deal.

But times have definitely changed. Today, blowjobs seem like more of a “currency” in relationships. Some guys expect them as a given, and some women feel pressured to do them, which can make the whole thing less enjoyable for both sides. That might be why some women don’t feel as casual about it anymore—it’s not just fun; it’s a negotiation.

As for guys making a fuss, it’s not entirely unwarranted. A great blowjob is an amazing experience, and there’s a reason it’s such a sought-after thing. But I also think some guys overdo it, turning it into a test of affection or loyalty rather than just appreciating it as a fun, intimate act.

Maybe you could playfully remind your wife of those old days she’s talking about—bring up those memories in a lighthearted way. Sometimes revisiting those carefree times in your mind can spark a bit of that old magic.

[antonio123]

I can see both sides of this. For guys, blowjobs might feel like a big deal because it’s not just physical—it’s about the emotional connection, too. When someone’s willing to go down on you, it feels like they’re letting their guard down and showing they care in a deeply personal way. That’s probably why guys hype it up so much.

But I also get where your wife is coming from. For her, it was just part of the natural rhythm of relationships back then. Maybe it wasn’t analyzed or fetishized the way it sometimes is now. It sounds like people back in her day had a more straightforward approach to sex—no overthinking, just enjoying the moment.

That said, I think your wife’s perspective is valuable because it shows how cultural attitudes toward sex evolve. If you’re feeling like it’s “no deal” now, maybe the issue isn’t about the blowjob itself but about finding ways to reconnect on a deeper level. When the emotional connection is strong, the physical side often follows naturally.

You might even try to recreate that drive-in movie vibe—do something spontaneous and a little playful. Sometimes breaking out of the routine is all it takes to reignite that spark.

[piciossa]

Your wife’s comments definitely highlight a generational difference. Back then, things seemed simpler—less pressure, less analysis, and more about just enjoying the experience. It’s funny because today, a lot of guys act like getting a blowjob is this rare, sacred thing, but maybe it’s because the culture has shifted to make it feel that way.

For women, it might still be “no big deal,” but I think the dynamics of modern relationships complicate things. Some women feel like they’re expected to do it, which can take away the fun and spontaneity. For men, it might feel like it’s harder to come by, which is why they cherish it so much.

As for the whole “drive-in” culture, that sounds like it was a golden era for exploration. People were more willing to experiment without worrying so much about labels or judgment. Maybe that’s something worth trying to bring back in some way—creating a space where intimacy feels natural and unpressured.

If she’s not into it now, it might help to have an open conversation about what’s changed for her. Maybe there’s a way to rekindle that carefree spirit she had back then and make it fun for both of you again. Sometimes a little nostalgia can work wonders.