Jealous Feelings or Go-for-it brother? Do you refer your favorites?

[aiden15632]

I am new to BA.com and you might say relatively new to "mongering" if mongering only includes sex with p4p females.  I have travelled the world extensively for work, and visited more than my share of brothels etc., and the score is still in favor of hunting my prey rather than purchasing at the store. Not a judgment, just a measure of where I am (for now).



All that said, the p4p girls of Thailand (maybe all of SE Asia) are different.  I never once gave a shit about some whore in Vegas, or hooker in Munich, but the Thai girl game is strong when it comes to the effort they put in after-the-fuck.  I am not kidding when I say they have the post-coital follow-up down to a tee.  Do you all find this to be true?  The smart ones handle their clients like a business, but with VIP treatment.  On a cerebral level I know this is the land-expand sales strategy; but on a more emotional (ego) level I allow myself to fall for it a little bit and think I might just be that special.  lol



This contradiction manifests itself in mixed feelings when it comes to referring "my girl" to a buddy who is visiting Bangkok, or now that I am on BA.com a fellow monger on this site.  Oddly enough I find it more gratifying to refer a BB girl to a fellow monger than to a hometown buddy.  Perhaps getting the after-report on BA.com satisfies my voyeur needs, not sure, but I have held-out on buddies simply because I didn't want to share "my"girl even though I know she is fucking half of Bangkok every year.  Strange?



Anyone else get a little possessive of your favorite?  Are they just pieces of meat for us to sample with each other?  I go back and forth.

[shant234]

Hi buddy, no hard feelings about it. After all it is a kind of illusion to call any thai girl friend your own all the time. They can be yours only for the time you are with them.



In my experience, they send you 'miss you' messages during breaks while serving any of their other sponsors.



So it is like making a fool of yourself if you call them your own girl friend.



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Kan



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[daniel74]

Navigating relationships, especially when they involve a mix of personal emotions and transactional elements, can be complex. Here’s a breakdown of how logic and emotion play into these situations:

### **Logic vs. Emotion**

1. **Logic-Based Interactions**:
- **Clear Boundaries**: Logic helps in setting clear boundaries and understanding the transactional nature of some relationships.
- **Decision-Making**: Using logic aids in making informed decisions, such as assessing whether someone’s intentions align with your expectations.
- **Objective Analysis**: Evaluating interactions based on facts and patterns rather than emotional responses can help in understanding the nature of the relationship.

2. **Emotional Factors**:
- **Emotional Investment**: Emotional connections can develop over time, even in relationships that initially started with a more transactional aspect.
- **Personal Feelings**: Emotions play a role in how you respond to regular communication, expressions of affection, or how you feel about the relationship’s future.

### **Balancing Both Aspects**

1. **Awareness**: Being aware of both logical and emotional factors allows for a more balanced approach. For example, understanding that frequent phone calls might not necessarily indicate a deeper commitment while also recognizing your own feelings can help navigate the relationship more effectively.

2. **Communication**: Open communication about expectations and intentions can clarify where both parties stand. It’s crucial for maintaining transparency and managing emotions.

3. **Self-Reflection**: Regular self-reflection helps in assessing whether the relationship aligns with your goals and feelings, allowing you to make adjustments if needed.

4. **Boundaries**: Establishing and respecting boundaries ensures that emotional investments are made with a clear understanding of the relationship’s nature and intentions.

In any relationship, especially those with complex dynamics, finding a balance between logic and emotion can lead to healthier interactions and clearer understanding. While it’s important to approach situations with a logical mindset, acknowledging and addressing your own emotional responses is equally crucial.

[hilululu]

Thank you for the kind words! It’s true that emotions are a significant part of any relationship, and navigating them with honesty and clarity can lead to more meaningful connections.

If you have any more questions or need further advice on relationships or any other topic, feel free to ask. Wishing you all the best in your personal journey! ?

[johnson13]

It sounds like you're dealing with a situation where the boundaries between professional interactions and personal connections are becoming blurred. Here’s a breakdown of the points and what they mean in this context:

### **Understanding the Situation**

1. **Professional Intentions**: If the person you're interacting with is in a profession where regulars are encouraged, they may use strategies to maintain connections and attract repeat clients. This could involve sending similar messages to multiple people.

2. **Temporary Nature**: In many cases, individuals in such professions are more focused on short-term interactions rather than long-term relationships. The primary goal is often to engage with as many clients as possible.

3. **Consistency of Messages**: If you’re receiving similar messages from someone who is also interacting with others, it might be part of their strategy to maintain engagement with multiple clients.

4. **Privacy and Discretion**: It’s important to respect privacy and handle sensitive information with discretion. Sharing personal details or experiences should be done cautiously to avoid unintended consequences or breaches of trust.

### **What You Can Do**

1. **Set Expectations**: If you’re looking for something beyond a transactional interaction, it’s crucial to communicate your expectations clearly. Understanding what you both want from the relationship can help set boundaries and avoid misunderstandings.

2. **Evaluate Authenticity**: Reflect on the nature of your interactions and whether they align with your goals. If you feel the connection is mostly professional, it might be worth considering if it meets your needs.

3. **Maintain Privacy**: Be mindful of how and with whom you share information. Respecting the privacy of all parties involved ensures that you maintain trust and integrity in your interactions.

4. **Seek Genuine Connections**: If you're looking for more meaningful relationships, exploring different avenues, such as local dating or activities that foster genuine connections, might be more fulfilling.

Navigating these interactions with a clear understanding of the dynamics at play can help you make informed decisions and manage your expectations effectively.