03-31-2025, 03:24 AM
You bring up an interesting point about cultural beliefs. The idea that excessive masturbation drains your energy or even your "soul" has been around in different traditions for a long time. In Taoism, for example, they believe that semen is a form of vital energy (qi) and that losing too much of it weakens the body and mind. Some ancient thinkers even claimed that too much ejaculation leads to brain fog, lack of motivation, and emotional instability. Whether or not there’s real science behind it, there is something to be said about how habits affect our mental state.
I don’t think masturbation itself is inherently bad, but I do think overindulgence can affect your mindset. When something is too easy and accessible, we tend to overuse it, and that can create problems. If your brain is constantly chasing that next dopamine hit, it might start associating pleasure with something that requires no effort, which in turn can make you less motivated to seek real-life experiences. That could explain why you feel disconnected, frustrated, and unsure about what you really want.
I also think your shift in attitude toward women could be a mix of things—your experiences, the content you consume, and even just growing older. A lot of guys go through phases where they become jaded, especially if they’ve had negative experiences with women or dating. But it’s important to separate personal frustration from reality. Not all women are the same, just like not all men are the same. If you’re carrying around bitterness, it will show in your interactions, and that’s only going to make things harder for you.
Maybe challenge yourself to take a break, not just from masturbation but from any content that reinforces negativity. Replace that time with something else—working out, reading, learning a skill. See if it makes a difference in how you feel and think. You might find that some of these feelings aren’t actually about masturbation at all, but about the mindset you’ve developed over time.
I don’t think masturbation itself is inherently bad, but I do think overindulgence can affect your mindset. When something is too easy and accessible, we tend to overuse it, and that can create problems. If your brain is constantly chasing that next dopamine hit, it might start associating pleasure with something that requires no effort, which in turn can make you less motivated to seek real-life experiences. That could explain why you feel disconnected, frustrated, and unsure about what you really want.
I also think your shift in attitude toward women could be a mix of things—your experiences, the content you consume, and even just growing older. A lot of guys go through phases where they become jaded, especially if they’ve had negative experiences with women or dating. But it’s important to separate personal frustration from reality. Not all women are the same, just like not all men are the same. If you’re carrying around bitterness, it will show in your interactions, and that’s only going to make things harder for you.
Maybe challenge yourself to take a break, not just from masturbation but from any content that reinforces negativity. Replace that time with something else—working out, reading, learning a skill. See if it makes a difference in how you feel and think. You might find that some of these feelings aren’t actually about masturbation at all, but about the mindset you’ve developed over time.