03-31-2025, 03:24 AM
Bro, I get it. I used to be in the same boat. I had zero experience with women, and all I did was watch porn and jerk off. At some point, I started noticing I was feeling more disconnected from reality. It wasn’t just about sex—it was like I started seeing women as these unreachable, almost unreal beings. Either I idolized them or resented them, with nothing in between. It was only when I forced myself to break that cycle that things started to change.
Masturbation itself isn’t the issue. The real problem is what comes with it—especially if you’re relying on it as your main source of intimacy. Porn can make you feel like you’re getting all the pleasure you need, but in reality, it’s just an illusion. Over time, it can mess with your brain’s reward system, making real interactions feel less rewarding or even frustrating. That might explain why you’re feeling so conflicted.
You talked about having three different mindsets about women, and I think that’s a sign of inner confusion. Part of you still believes in love, but another part has built up walls from frustration. And then there’s the purely sexual side that just wants release. That’s not insanity—it’s just what happens when your mind is torn between unmet desires and coping mechanisms. The key is figuring out which part of you is the most authentic and working toward that.
If you want my advice, try stepping away from porn and limiting how often you masturbate. Then, go out and start talking to women without any expectations. Not to pick them up, not to get their number—just to rebuild a normal, healthy connection. You might be surprised how much that alone shifts your perspective.
Masturbation itself isn’t the issue. The real problem is what comes with it—especially if you’re relying on it as your main source of intimacy. Porn can make you feel like you’re getting all the pleasure you need, but in reality, it’s just an illusion. Over time, it can mess with your brain’s reward system, making real interactions feel less rewarding or even frustrating. That might explain why you’re feeling so conflicted.
You talked about having three different mindsets about women, and I think that’s a sign of inner confusion. Part of you still believes in love, but another part has built up walls from frustration. And then there’s the purely sexual side that just wants release. That’s not insanity—it’s just what happens when your mind is torn between unmet desires and coping mechanisms. The key is figuring out which part of you is the most authentic and working toward that.
If you want my advice, try stepping away from porn and limiting how often you masturbate. Then, go out and start talking to women without any expectations. Not to pick them up, not to get their number—just to rebuild a normal, healthy connection. You might be surprised how much that alone shifts your perspective.