03-31-2025, 03:22 AM
first of all, props for being open about this. A lot of guys are too embarrassed to even talk about it, but honestly, this is one of the most common fears out there. I’ve talked to a lot of guys who felt the exact same way, and most of them realized afterward that it wasn’t nearly as bad as they expected.
I think a lot of it comes down to mindset. If you see sex as a “performance,” you’re putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. The reality is, sex is a two-way thing. It’s about connection, pleasure, and having fun. Even if you finish quickly, that doesn’t mean the whole experience is over. You can always go for round two, focus on other forms of pleasure, or just enjoy the moment together.
A practical tip: Try masturbating an hour or two before you meet up with someone for sex. Some guys find this helps them last longer because they aren’t as sensitive. Another thing is deep breathing—when you feel close, slow down, take deep breaths, and relax your body. These small changes can make a huge difference.
The best part? As you gain more experience, this fear naturally fades away. So don’t stress it too much—just focus on the fun part, and the rest will take care of itself.
I think a lot of it comes down to mindset. If you see sex as a “performance,” you’re putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. The reality is, sex is a two-way thing. It’s about connection, pleasure, and having fun. Even if you finish quickly, that doesn’t mean the whole experience is over. You can always go for round two, focus on other forms of pleasure, or just enjoy the moment together.
A practical tip: Try masturbating an hour or two before you meet up with someone for sex. Some guys find this helps them last longer because they aren’t as sensitive. Another thing is deep breathing—when you feel close, slow down, take deep breaths, and relax your body. These small changes can make a huge difference.
The best part? As you gain more experience, this fear naturally fades away. So don’t stress it too much—just focus on the fun part, and the rest will take care of itself.