03-31-2025, 03:22 AM
Dude, I think every virgin has this fear at some point. And yeah, for some guys, the first time does end fast. But the good news is, it's usually not as big of a deal as we make it in our heads. If you’re with someone who actually cares about you, they won’t judge you for it. And if they do, well… they weren’t worth it anyway.
I’d say the biggest game-changer for me was learning to focus on the entire experience instead of just penetration. Women enjoy a lot more than just the main event. Kissing, touching, going down on her—these things all build up the experience and take the pressure off of you to “perform.” If you focus on making her feel good in other ways, she’s gonna be way more into you regardless of how long you last.
Also, a little secret: condoms + a small amount of numbing lube can help slow things down if you’re really worried about it. It’s not a long-term solution, but it’s a good way to get through the nerves of the first couple of times. Plus, if you get her to orgasm before penetration even happens, then the pressure on you completely disappears.
At the end of the day, this is a temporary issue. The more you do it, the better you get. Nobody is a pro on day one—just go with the flow and have fun.
I’d say the biggest game-changer for me was learning to focus on the entire experience instead of just penetration. Women enjoy a lot more than just the main event. Kissing, touching, going down on her—these things all build up the experience and take the pressure off of you to “perform.” If you focus on making her feel good in other ways, she’s gonna be way more into you regardless of how long you last.
Also, a little secret: condoms + a small amount of numbing lube can help slow things down if you’re really worried about it. It’s not a long-term solution, but it’s a good way to get through the nerves of the first couple of times. Plus, if you get her to orgasm before penetration even happens, then the pressure on you completely disappears.
At the end of the day, this is a temporary issue. The more you do it, the better you get. Nobody is a pro on day one—just go with the flow and have fun.