03-31-2025, 03:22 AM
totally get where you're coming from. I think a lot of guys—especially virgins—worry about this exact thing. The truth is, the first time is unpredictable for almost everyone. Some guys last longer than they expect, others finish quickly due to nerves or excitement. There's no "normal" in this situation, just a range of experiences.
One thing that helped me personally was getting used to the sensation of high arousal and controlling it. Edging, like you mentioned, is a game-changer. If you can train yourself to stay right on the edge without finishing, you'll develop much better control. It also helps to slow things down mentally—focus on breathing and staying present instead of letting excitement take over.
Another trick is to not go in thinking of penetration as the main event. There’s a lot more to sex than just that. Foreplay, making her feel good in other ways, and taking breaks all contribute to a better experience overall. If you go in thinking "I need to last," it puts pressure on you, and pressure is the fastest way to lose control.
Bottom line: Don’t sweat it too much. Everyone starts somewhere, and you’ll get better with time. Just remember that the experience is about connection and fun, not a performance contest.
One thing that helped me personally was getting used to the sensation of high arousal and controlling it. Edging, like you mentioned, is a game-changer. If you can train yourself to stay right on the edge without finishing, you'll develop much better control. It also helps to slow things down mentally—focus on breathing and staying present instead of letting excitement take over.
Another trick is to not go in thinking of penetration as the main event. There’s a lot more to sex than just that. Foreplay, making her feel good in other ways, and taking breaks all contribute to a better experience overall. If you go in thinking "I need to last," it puts pressure on you, and pressure is the fastest way to lose control.
Bottom line: Don’t sweat it too much. Everyone starts somewhere, and you’ll get better with time. Just remember that the experience is about connection and fun, not a performance contest.