03-31-2025, 03:09 AM
Dude, I had the exact same problem when I first tried this, and it turned out I was just way too tense. I didn’t realize how much mental relaxation played a role in this kind of play. If you’re clenching up or even slightly nervous about the experience, your muscles will instinctively tighten, and that’s going to make everything hurt way more than it should.
What helped me was deep breathing and actually taking time to enjoy the process. Instead of focusing on "doing it right," I focused on how it felt. I started with very light external stimulation, then gradually worked my way to penetration. When I finally got there, I kept breathing deeply, exhaling as I inserted a finger, which helped my muscles stay relaxed.
I also found that position really mattered. When I tried doing it standing up in the shower, it was super uncomfortable. But when I laid down on my side with my legs slightly curled up, everything felt way more natural and less forced. Experimenting with different positions could make a huge difference for you.
Lastly, if the pain isn’t going away, maybe you’re being too aggressive with it. Start small, use a generous amount of lube, and don’t push past discomfort. You should be able to feel a stretching sensation, but it should never be sharp pain. Listen to your body, and if something doesn’t feel right, adjust accordingly.
What helped me was deep breathing and actually taking time to enjoy the process. Instead of focusing on "doing it right," I focused on how it felt. I started with very light external stimulation, then gradually worked my way to penetration. When I finally got there, I kept breathing deeply, exhaling as I inserted a finger, which helped my muscles stay relaxed.
I also found that position really mattered. When I tried doing it standing up in the shower, it was super uncomfortable. But when I laid down on my side with my legs slightly curled up, everything felt way more natural and less forced. Experimenting with different positions could make a huge difference for you.
Lastly, if the pain isn’t going away, maybe you’re being too aggressive with it. Start small, use a generous amount of lube, and don’t push past discomfort. You should be able to feel a stretching sensation, but it should never be sharp pain. Listen to your body, and if something doesn’t feel right, adjust accordingly.