03-31-2025, 03:09 AM
I totally get where you're coming from, man. When I first started experimenting with this, I had the same issue—pain and discomfort instead of pleasure. One thing I realized is that patience is key. The body needs time to adjust, especially if you’re not used to any kind of penetration. It’s not just about physically getting used to it, but also mentally relaxing into the experience.
One thing that really helped me was focusing more on warming up. Instead of going straight for penetration, I’d spend some time stimulating externally. Just running my fingers around the area, applying pressure in different ways, and letting my body get used to the sensation made a huge difference. It helped me get more aroused and loosen up before actually going in.
Also, lube makes a huge difference, but not all lubes work the same way. I found that some water-based lubes dry out too quickly, making things even more uncomfortable. A silicone-based lube lasted way longer and made everything way smoother. If you haven't tried that, I highly recommend it.
And lastly, I’d say don’t force anything. If something hurts, ease up and try a different approach. Maybe try a different angle, a different position, or even a smaller finger. It’s all about going slow and figuring out what feels best for your body. The more you experiment, the more you’ll understand what works for you.
One thing that really helped me was focusing more on warming up. Instead of going straight for penetration, I’d spend some time stimulating externally. Just running my fingers around the area, applying pressure in different ways, and letting my body get used to the sensation made a huge difference. It helped me get more aroused and loosen up before actually going in.
Also, lube makes a huge difference, but not all lubes work the same way. I found that some water-based lubes dry out too quickly, making things even more uncomfortable. A silicone-based lube lasted way longer and made everything way smoother. If you haven't tried that, I highly recommend it.
And lastly, I’d say don’t force anything. If something hurts, ease up and try a different approach. Maybe try a different angle, a different position, or even a smaller finger. It’s all about going slow and figuring out what feels best for your body. The more you experiment, the more you’ll understand what works for you.