03-30-2025, 04:40 AM
I think Nina Hartley’s perspective is interesting, but it also proves the point that different women have different preferences. Some will swear by size, while others will tell you it’s all about technique and connection. I’ve been with women who seemed to prefer a bit more length because they liked deeper penetration, but I’ve also been with women who said girth mattered more or that it didn’t matter at all.
The real issue here is how much women’s pleasure depends on mental and emotional factors. A woman who’s fully turned on, comfortable, and mentally engaged will likely have a much better experience regardless of size. The problem is, a lot of guys focus too much on size and not enough on the whole experience—things like foreplay, rhythm, and variation in movement make a massive difference.
From my experience, the best approach is to ask and pay attention to a woman’s responses during sex. Some women might enjoy a certain depth, but if you don’t have that, there are other ways to create intense pleasure, like focusing on the G-spot or incorporating clitoral stimulation. At the end of the day, what works for one won’t work for all, and that’s what guys need to remember.
That said, it is interesting that a lot of women seem to mention the 6-7 inch range. Maybe there’s something to that sweet spot where it’s long enough for deep penetration but not so long that it’s uncomfortable.
The real issue here is how much women’s pleasure depends on mental and emotional factors. A woman who’s fully turned on, comfortable, and mentally engaged will likely have a much better experience regardless of size. The problem is, a lot of guys focus too much on size and not enough on the whole experience—things like foreplay, rhythm, and variation in movement make a massive difference.
From my experience, the best approach is to ask and pay attention to a woman’s responses during sex. Some women might enjoy a certain depth, but if you don’t have that, there are other ways to create intense pleasure, like focusing on the G-spot or incorporating clitoral stimulation. At the end of the day, what works for one won’t work for all, and that’s what guys need to remember.
That said, it is interesting that a lot of women seem to mention the 6-7 inch range. Maybe there’s something to that sweet spot where it’s long enough for deep penetration but not so long that it’s uncomfortable.