01-28-2025, 03:58 PM
I’ve been there too. Negative thoughts can really throw off your experience, but I think part of the problem is that we tend to see pleasure in a very goal-oriented way. It’s easy to get stuck thinking that if I don’t climax in a certain way, then it wasn’t a successful experience. But lately, I’ve been trying to let go of that expectation and just enjoy whatever happens in the moment. It’s about quality, not the finish line.
One thing that’s helped me is breaking things down into smaller steps. Instead of focusing on the whole experience, I focus on one specific thing—maybe a specific touch or sensation. It helps to stay focused on the details, almost like a mental exercise to keep my mind from wandering. Over time, this has made things feel more satisfying, even without the pressure of achieving the “perfect” orgasm.
I’ve also started incorporating some self-care into my routine, especially when I’m feeling down or lonely. It could be something as simple as working out or even just taking a walk outside. These things help me feel more in tune with my body and more connected to myself, which ultimately leads to better experiences when I’m on my own.
It’s not always easy, but I think you’re heading in the right direction by wanting to stay focused and centered. Try some of these techniques and give yourself the grace to practice them. It doesn’t happen overnight, but progress is key.
One thing that’s helped me is breaking things down into smaller steps. Instead of focusing on the whole experience, I focus on one specific thing—maybe a specific touch or sensation. It helps to stay focused on the details, almost like a mental exercise to keep my mind from wandering. Over time, this has made things feel more satisfying, even without the pressure of achieving the “perfect” orgasm.
I’ve also started incorporating some self-care into my routine, especially when I’m feeling down or lonely. It could be something as simple as working out or even just taking a walk outside. These things help me feel more in tune with my body and more connected to myself, which ultimately leads to better experiences when I’m on my own.
It’s not always easy, but I think you’re heading in the right direction by wanting to stay focused and centered. Try some of these techniques and give yourself the grace to practice them. It doesn’t happen overnight, but progress is key.