01-28-2025, 03:56 PM
I’ve definitely been in a similar situation, and it sounds like your girlfriend might just be one of those women whose body responds more to clitoral stimulation than vaginal penetration. There’s nothing wrong with that. For some women, the clitoris is the primary source of pleasure, and even though they enjoy sex and intimacy, reaching orgasm from penetration alone can be difficult or not as intense. It’s not a reflection of your sexual performance; it’s just a physical difference in how some women experience pleasure.
It’s great that you’re both so open about it and communicating well. Many people in your situation might not have the same level of comfort in discussing it. I think the key here is not feeling like you need to change the situation, but rather enhance it. If she’s happy with the way things are, then you’re already doing something right. But if you want to experiment with ways to bring her even closer to orgasm during intercourse, I’d suggest trying different angles or adding some gentle clitoral stimulation while you’re together.
Maybe even think about exploring other forms of intimacy—sensual massages, more extended foreplay, or introducing toys like a vibrator to use during intercourse. A lot of women find that external stimulation combined with penetration is the key to orgasm, so it might just be a matter of finding the right combination for her body. The important thing is to keep the emotional connection strong, which it sounds like you already have.
And if she’s not frustrated, I wouldn’t stress too much. There’s no “right” way to experience sex, and as long as both of you are content, that’s all that matters. Don’t let external pressures make you feel like you need to fix something that might not even need fixing.
It’s great that you’re both so open about it and communicating well. Many people in your situation might not have the same level of comfort in discussing it. I think the key here is not feeling like you need to change the situation, but rather enhance it. If she’s happy with the way things are, then you’re already doing something right. But if you want to experiment with ways to bring her even closer to orgasm during intercourse, I’d suggest trying different angles or adding some gentle clitoral stimulation while you’re together.
Maybe even think about exploring other forms of intimacy—sensual massages, more extended foreplay, or introducing toys like a vibrator to use during intercourse. A lot of women find that external stimulation combined with penetration is the key to orgasm, so it might just be a matter of finding the right combination for her body. The important thing is to keep the emotional connection strong, which it sounds like you already have.
And if she’s not frustrated, I wouldn’t stress too much. There’s no “right” way to experience sex, and as long as both of you are content, that’s all that matters. Don’t let external pressures make you feel like you need to fix something that might not even need fixing.