01-28-2025, 03:54 PM
Hey there, I’ve been in a similar situation, and I can tell you that sometimes these things take time. First, I agree with the others that the fear of being caught is definitely a significant factor. It’s hard to enjoy sex when there’s that constant nagging thought in the back of your mind. What helped me in a similar situation was creating rituals and signals with my partner to make sure we both knew we had privacy, and that helped her feel more relaxed. It might be worth having an honest talk with her about what kind of boundaries you can set up to ensure you both feel safe.
As for alcohol, it sounds like it might be a bit of a crutch for her at the moment. The relaxation it brings might help her let go, but over time, this could create a dependence on it for good sex. Maybe try mixing in some sober experiences where she’s not relying on alcohol to get to that point of relaxation. It could also help if you focus more on foreplay—sometimes the buildup without the rush to finish can make the experience way more intense for both people.
I think it’s important to remember that each woman is different, and it’s awesome that you’re trying to understand her body and her needs. The G-spot stimulation might take more than just a few tries, and even if it’s not working perfectly, the fact that you’re paying attention to her comfort and pleasure means you’re on the right track. Keep the communication flowing and let her express what she likes and doesn’t like.
Finally, don’t get discouraged. It’s great that you’re trying to help her experience orgasm, but remember that sex is about connection. Keep exploring and having fun with it. As you continue learning each other’s bodies and desires, it’ll all fall into place naturally. Patience and understanding will make all the difference in the long run.
As for alcohol, it sounds like it might be a bit of a crutch for her at the moment. The relaxation it brings might help her let go, but over time, this could create a dependence on it for good sex. Maybe try mixing in some sober experiences where she’s not relying on alcohol to get to that point of relaxation. It could also help if you focus more on foreplay—sometimes the buildup without the rush to finish can make the experience way more intense for both people.
I think it’s important to remember that each woman is different, and it’s awesome that you’re trying to understand her body and her needs. The G-spot stimulation might take more than just a few tries, and even if it’s not working perfectly, the fact that you’re paying attention to her comfort and pleasure means you’re on the right track. Keep the communication flowing and let her express what she likes and doesn’t like.
Finally, don’t get discouraged. It’s great that you’re trying to help her experience orgasm, but remember that sex is about connection. Keep exploring and having fun with it. As you continue learning each other’s bodies and desires, it’ll all fall into place naturally. Patience and understanding will make all the difference in the long run.