01-28-2025, 03:54 PM
Hey man, I feel for you. Trying to help your partner get to the point of orgasm can feel like a puzzle sometimes, but it’s clear you’re really trying. First off, I think the anxiety of being caught is definitely a major barrier. When your partner is constantly on edge like that, it can definitely block any pleasure from flowing. You’ve already got a good start by recognizing that’s affecting her. Try to talk to her openly about how you can both work together to avoid those interruptions—maybe create a time when you can have complete privacy, and even lock the door to avoid any surprises.
In terms of alcohol, I do think it’s playing a part in her ability to let go. The fact that she seemed to enjoy things more when drunk could be because the alcohol helped her relax enough to focus on the pleasure without any distractions or inhibitions. That’s common, but it can also be a sign that there’s something deeper preventing her from feeling totally comfortable when sober. If you’re able to talk with her about that, you can figure out if there’s any other mental or emotional thing blocking her ability to really enjoy sex.
Also, with G-spot stimulation, some women need more time to warm up to it. She might not have been in the right headspace the first time, but the fact that she liked it the second time is a great sign. Keep exploring and asking her what feels good. Some women enjoy being led, while others like to take the reins. You might want to try different rhythms or pressure until you find what really works for her.
Ultimately, the most important thing is communication. Keep having these open and non-judgmental talks with her. It’s clear you want to make sure she’s comfortable and that you’re willing to experiment and listen, which will eventually help you both figure out what works best. Keep it relaxed and don’t put too much pressure on it.
In terms of alcohol, I do think it’s playing a part in her ability to let go. The fact that she seemed to enjoy things more when drunk could be because the alcohol helped her relax enough to focus on the pleasure without any distractions or inhibitions. That’s common, but it can also be a sign that there’s something deeper preventing her from feeling totally comfortable when sober. If you’re able to talk with her about that, you can figure out if there’s any other mental or emotional thing blocking her ability to really enjoy sex.
Also, with G-spot stimulation, some women need more time to warm up to it. She might not have been in the right headspace the first time, but the fact that she liked it the second time is a great sign. Keep exploring and asking her what feels good. Some women enjoy being led, while others like to take the reins. You might want to try different rhythms or pressure until you find what really works for her.
Ultimately, the most important thing is communication. Keep having these open and non-judgmental talks with her. It’s clear you want to make sure she’s comfortable and that you’re willing to experiment and listen, which will eventually help you both figure out what works best. Keep it relaxed and don’t put too much pressure on it.