01-28-2025, 03:53 PM
It sounds like you’re really trying to be considerate, and I respect that. It seems like a lot of things could be at play here, but I’d agree that the fear of being caught is probably one of the bigger factors. For many people, that kind of stress can make it almost impossible to relax, no matter how much physical stimulation is going on. I’ve been in relationships where both me and my partner were worried about someone overhearing, and it totally killed the vibe.
If you want to help her relax, maybe try setting the scene in a way that makes her feel like she’s in control. Sometimes, turning off distractions, dimming the lights, or just creating a safe space where you’re not worried about someone walking in can really help. You might even want to have a conversation about how you can ensure that doesn’t happen next time. This might help remove the mental blocks that are interfering with her pleasure.
Regarding alcohol, I wouldn’t say it’s a crutch, but it could be helping her get out of her head. The thing with alcohol is it affects people differently. For some, it’s a confidence booster; for others, it just dulls the senses. It might be a good idea to see how she feels about her sexual experiences when sober—ask her how she feels without alcohol, and you can adjust from there. You might be surprised by how her body responds when she's not relying on alcohol to let go.
But don’t give up, man. You’re doing everything right by being patient and understanding. Sometimes it’s just a matter of time and creating a comfortable space. Keep talking to her and experimenting with different approaches, and things should improve.
If you want to help her relax, maybe try setting the scene in a way that makes her feel like she’s in control. Sometimes, turning off distractions, dimming the lights, or just creating a safe space where you’re not worried about someone walking in can really help. You might even want to have a conversation about how you can ensure that doesn’t happen next time. This might help remove the mental blocks that are interfering with her pleasure.
Regarding alcohol, I wouldn’t say it’s a crutch, but it could be helping her get out of her head. The thing with alcohol is it affects people differently. For some, it’s a confidence booster; for others, it just dulls the senses. It might be a good idea to see how she feels about her sexual experiences when sober—ask her how she feels without alcohol, and you can adjust from there. You might be surprised by how her body responds when she's not relying on alcohol to let go.
But don’t give up, man. You’re doing everything right by being patient and understanding. Sometimes it’s just a matter of time and creating a comfortable space. Keep talking to her and experimenting with different approaches, and things should improve.