01-28-2025, 03:53 PM
Hey man, it sounds like you’re really putting in the effort to make things better, which is awesome. As for the fear of being caught, that’s a huge factor. If she’s constantly worried about someone walking in, it’s no surprise it’s affecting her ability to let go. I’ve had similar experiences where the anxiety of being overheard or seen really dampens the mood. It can be helpful to create a safe space where you both know you won’t be interrupted—maybe even setting boundaries with roommates or family about privacy could ease that stress.
Also, I think alcohol plays a big role here. I wouldn’t say it’s the reason she’s having trouble reaching orgasm, but it definitely lowers inhibitions, which is why she might be letting go more in that state. When you’re sober, there’s a different kind of pressure to “perform,” and that can block the natural flow of things. Maybe try to talk about her comfort level with alcohol and see if there’s a middle ground where she feels relaxed without needing to get drunk.
You’re doing great with the G-spot stimulation. Don’t be discouraged by the progress—it sounds like you’re making strides. Keep experimenting, but also remember that sexual chemistry can evolve with time. If you both continue exploring at her pace, it’ll probably start falling into place. Try being more vocal with her about what feels good, and let her give feedback. Sometimes the physical part is easier when the emotional connection feels strong.
Lastly, don’t overthink it too much. It seems like you’re putting pressure on yourself to get it right, but sometimes a relaxed, spontaneous approach can work wonders. Maybe you’re focusing too hard on getting her to orgasm, which could create performance anxiety for both of you. Focus on enjoying the experience together, and the orgasms will likely follow naturally.
Also, I think alcohol plays a big role here. I wouldn’t say it’s the reason she’s having trouble reaching orgasm, but it definitely lowers inhibitions, which is why she might be letting go more in that state. When you’re sober, there’s a different kind of pressure to “perform,” and that can block the natural flow of things. Maybe try to talk about her comfort level with alcohol and see if there’s a middle ground where she feels relaxed without needing to get drunk.
You’re doing great with the G-spot stimulation. Don’t be discouraged by the progress—it sounds like you’re making strides. Keep experimenting, but also remember that sexual chemistry can evolve with time. If you both continue exploring at her pace, it’ll probably start falling into place. Try being more vocal with her about what feels good, and let her give feedback. Sometimes the physical part is easier when the emotional connection feels strong.
Lastly, don’t overthink it too much. It seems like you’re putting pressure on yourself to get it right, but sometimes a relaxed, spontaneous approach can work wonders. Maybe you’re focusing too hard on getting her to orgasm, which could create performance anxiety for both of you. Focus on enjoying the experience together, and the orgasms will likely follow naturally.