01-28-2025, 03:53 PM
I totally get the fear of disappointing your partner or making him feel like he’s not doing something right, but I think it’s important to consider the long-term impact of keeping this to yourself. The thing is, your boyfriend probably has no idea that you’re faking it, and it could be affecting the way you feel about your relationship overall. It’s easy to think that he’ll get upset, but what if he’s actually relieved that you’re being honest and sharing what’s really going on?
As a guy, I’ll tell you—if my partner came to me with this kind of vulnerability, I’d appreciate it. We all want to know that our partner is satisfied, and it’s not about doing things “wrong”—it’s about figuring out what works. It could be that he doesn’t even realize there’s an issue, and the moment you bring it up, you could see a huge improvement in your intimacy.
The key here is that you’re not telling him he’s bad in bed; you’re simply explaining that there are things that need to be explored more for you to fully enjoy yourself. Be patient with him and give him a chance to process the information. It might take time, but being honest with each other will make your relationship stronger.
Also, remember that it’s not just about sex—it’s about building a partnership where both people feel heard and respected. If you’re honest with him, he’ll likely appreciate the trust and the opportunity to grow together.
As a guy, I’ll tell you—if my partner came to me with this kind of vulnerability, I’d appreciate it. We all want to know that our partner is satisfied, and it’s not about doing things “wrong”—it’s about figuring out what works. It could be that he doesn’t even realize there’s an issue, and the moment you bring it up, you could see a huge improvement in your intimacy.
The key here is that you’re not telling him he’s bad in bed; you’re simply explaining that there are things that need to be explored more for you to fully enjoy yourself. Be patient with him and give him a chance to process the information. It might take time, but being honest with each other will make your relationship stronger.
Also, remember that it’s not just about sex—it’s about building a partnership where both people feel heard and respected. If you’re honest with him, he’ll likely appreciate the trust and the opportunity to grow together.