01-28-2025, 03:53 PM
I’ve been in a similar situation before, and it’s tough, I won’t lie. It’s easy to feel like you’re failing at something or that you’re disappointing your partner, but in reality, most guys would rather know what’s going on than feel like they’re missing the mark. If he truly cares about you, he will appreciate the honesty.
It’s important to consider how much of it is about you feeling like you’re faking it. Sometimes, our own insecurities can make us second-guess what we’re doing in bed, which affects how much we let go. If you’re feeling this way, he might be picking up on it, even if he doesn’t say it out loud. That’s why I think telling him might actually help. You’re not telling him he’s bad at sex, you’re telling him you need something different to feel truly satisfied.
If you're worried about how to bring it up, maybe start by telling him about some of the things you enjoy and what helps you get closer to orgasm. Ask him how he feels about being more patient or trying different things together. This way, it feels like a partnership rather than an accusation or confrontation.
And don’t stress about hurting his feelings. If he’s someone who truly cares about you, he’ll appreciate that you’re being open. In fact, it might improve your sex life in ways you didn’t expect. It could even make him more confident knowing exactly what works for you.
It’s important to consider how much of it is about you feeling like you’re faking it. Sometimes, our own insecurities can make us second-guess what we’re doing in bed, which affects how much we let go. If you’re feeling this way, he might be picking up on it, even if he doesn’t say it out loud. That’s why I think telling him might actually help. You’re not telling him he’s bad at sex, you’re telling him you need something different to feel truly satisfied.
If you're worried about how to bring it up, maybe start by telling him about some of the things you enjoy and what helps you get closer to orgasm. Ask him how he feels about being more patient or trying different things together. This way, it feels like a partnership rather than an accusation or confrontation.
And don’t stress about hurting his feelings. If he’s someone who truly cares about you, he’ll appreciate that you’re being open. In fact, it might improve your sex life in ways you didn’t expect. It could even make him more confident knowing exactly what works for you.