01-28-2025, 03:53 PM
First of all, I want to say that you’re not alone in this. Many women struggle with orgasm during intercourse, and it’s something that isn’t talked about enough. There’s a lot of pressure for women to “perform” during sex, and that can make it feel like you have to fake it just to keep things moving smoothly. But I think you’re doing the right thing by questioning whether or not to open up to your boyfriend.
As a guy, I can say that if I were in his shoes, I would want to know if there’s something I could be doing differently. It might feel a little awkward at first, but it’s actually a great opportunity to deepen your connection. The fact that you’re already so comfortable with him after three years shows that he likely cares deeply about you, and he’ll probably be relieved to know what’s really going on.
When you do talk to him, try to focus on how the two of you can work together to make things better. You don’t have to focus entirely on the fact that you’ve been faking it, but instead on how you want to explore new ways of connecting. Be honest about what you need and how you’re feeling. It’s not about blaming him; it’s about improving the intimacy between you two.
I think that once you start having these conversations, it’ll not only improve your sex life but also bring you closer in other ways. The vulnerability that comes with being honest can make both of you feel more connected.
As a guy, I can say that if I were in his shoes, I would want to know if there’s something I could be doing differently. It might feel a little awkward at first, but it’s actually a great opportunity to deepen your connection. The fact that you’re already so comfortable with him after three years shows that he likely cares deeply about you, and he’ll probably be relieved to know what’s really going on.
When you do talk to him, try to focus on how the two of you can work together to make things better. You don’t have to focus entirely on the fact that you’ve been faking it, but instead on how you want to explore new ways of connecting. Be honest about what you need and how you’re feeling. It’s not about blaming him; it’s about improving the intimacy between you two.
I think that once you start having these conversations, it’ll not only improve your sex life but also bring you closer in other ways. The vulnerability that comes with being honest can make both of you feel more connected.