01-28-2025, 03:52 PM
I totally understand where you’re coming from. I think it’s really common for people to feel like they have to fake orgasms at some point, especially when they’re afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings. But honestly, I think the key here is communication. If you’ve been with him for three years, it’s likely he cares about your satisfaction, and you might be surprised by how open he could be about it.
From a guy’s perspective, I can tell you that it can be hard to know for sure if your partner is faking it, especially if they’re doing it well. But sometimes you get a feeling when things don’t quite align or when something feels off. The best thing is to talk about it openly and honestly. It could actually make your relationship stronger in the long run.
I’d say you should definitely tell him, but make sure you’re approaching the conversation from a place of wanting to improve your sex life together, rather than making it about his shortcomings. Frame it in a way that says you’re trying to be vulnerable and honest, and that it’s not about him doing anything wrong—it's just about finding what really works for both of you.
As for the fear of him being upset, I get that. But think about how much better your sex life could be if you address it together. He might even feel relieved to know how to make things better for you. If you’re scared of the conversation, maybe start slow and see how he reacts to smaller discussions about your needs.
From a guy’s perspective, I can tell you that it can be hard to know for sure if your partner is faking it, especially if they’re doing it well. But sometimes you get a feeling when things don’t quite align or when something feels off. The best thing is to talk about it openly and honestly. It could actually make your relationship stronger in the long run.
I’d say you should definitely tell him, but make sure you’re approaching the conversation from a place of wanting to improve your sex life together, rather than making it about his shortcomings. Frame it in a way that says you’re trying to be vulnerable and honest, and that it’s not about him doing anything wrong—it's just about finding what really works for both of you.
As for the fear of him being upset, I get that. But think about how much better your sex life could be if you address it together. He might even feel relieved to know how to make things better for you. If you’re scared of the conversation, maybe start slow and see how he reacts to smaller discussions about your needs.