01-28-2025, 03:36 PM
This is a fascinating discussion, and I think it’s important to remember that everyone’s sexual response is different. I’ve had similar conversations with my partner about this exact situation, and it’s always been more about the shift in energy than anything physical. Once I finish, my body naturally goes into this post-orgasmic state where I’m less focused on the act itself, even if I’m still trying to engage with her.
One thing we’ve noticed is that the sequence of events matters a lot. If I finish first, it feels like the focus shifts entirely to her, which might unintentionally create a sense of pressure. Even though I’m totally happy to spend time making sure she gets off, I think she feels like the dynamic has changed. That pressure can make it harder for her to relax and enjoy the experience.
I’ve also wondered about how semen might play a role. For some people, the sensation of it can be distracting or even uncomfortable. It’s not something we talk about often, but I imagine the physical presence of semen could affect how someone feels during sex. Whether it’s the texture, temperature, or just the mental awareness of it, I think these small factors can add up.
Our solution has been to shift the focus to her pleasure first. We’ve tried starting with oral sex or toys so that she’s closer to climax before we even get to penetration. That way, she doesn’t feel like the pressure is on her to finish after I’m done. It’s been a really positive change for us, and I’d recommend experimenting with different approaches to see what works.
One thing we’ve noticed is that the sequence of events matters a lot. If I finish first, it feels like the focus shifts entirely to her, which might unintentionally create a sense of pressure. Even though I’m totally happy to spend time making sure she gets off, I think she feels like the dynamic has changed. That pressure can make it harder for her to relax and enjoy the experience.
I’ve also wondered about how semen might play a role. For some people, the sensation of it can be distracting or even uncomfortable. It’s not something we talk about often, but I imagine the physical presence of semen could affect how someone feels during sex. Whether it’s the texture, temperature, or just the mental awareness of it, I think these small factors can add up.
Our solution has been to shift the focus to her pleasure first. We’ve tried starting with oral sex or toys so that she’s closer to climax before we even get to penetration. That way, she doesn’t feel like the pressure is on her to finish after I’m done. It’s been a really positive change for us, and I’d recommend experimenting with different approaches to see what works.