01-28-2025, 03:35 PM
I’ve been through this too, and it’s such a frustrating experience! I used to think there was something wrong with me, but after talking to friends and even my partner, I realized it’s a lot more common than I thought. I agree with what Alex said—this doesn’t seem to be about semen itself but more about the aftermath of ejaculation and how it changes the mood or dynamic.
One thing I’ve noticed is that after my partner ejaculates, his body language changes even if he’s still trying to help me out. He might not be as physically or emotionally “present,” and I pick up on that subconsciously. It’s like I know he’s already finished, so part of my brain starts checking out too. That makes it harder to stay in the moment, and once my focus is broken, it’s really hard to get it back.
Another thing that stood out for me is the physical side. Sometimes, semen creates this cooling or slippery sensation that’s not as stimulating as the warmth or friction I felt before. It’s not uncomfortable, but it does change the experience. I’ve also wondered if there’s something hormonal going on—like, does semen release any chemicals that might affect arousal? I’ve read about pheromones and hormones playing a role in sexual response, so maybe there’s something to that.
To work around this, we started experimenting with different positions and pacing. I found that if I’m in a position where I can control the angle and stimulation better, it’s easier for me to stay aroused even after he’s finished. Also, making sure I’m already super close to climax before he ejaculates has been a game-changer.
One thing I’ve noticed is that after my partner ejaculates, his body language changes even if he’s still trying to help me out. He might not be as physically or emotionally “present,” and I pick up on that subconsciously. It’s like I know he’s already finished, so part of my brain starts checking out too. That makes it harder to stay in the moment, and once my focus is broken, it’s really hard to get it back.
Another thing that stood out for me is the physical side. Sometimes, semen creates this cooling or slippery sensation that’s not as stimulating as the warmth or friction I felt before. It’s not uncomfortable, but it does change the experience. I’ve also wondered if there’s something hormonal going on—like, does semen release any chemicals that might affect arousal? I’ve read about pheromones and hormones playing a role in sexual response, so maybe there’s something to that.
To work around this, we started experimenting with different positions and pacing. I found that if I’m in a position where I can control the angle and stimulation better, it’s easier for me to stay aroused even after he’s finished. Also, making sure I’m already super close to climax before he ejaculates has been a game-changer.